Author OucHmyHearT Posted November 4, 2003 Author Posted November 4, 2003 yah...she never told me anything about any guy...she's doing that none of your business thing...which it really is...but i mean...maybe just outta respect she could at least tell me so i can get on with my own life...but whatever....if she wants to shut me out then fine... she might call me sometime soon though...it was her birthday yesterday and i sent her a birthday card...just to wish her a happy bday..nothing more...she might call to say thanks ...i dunno...probably wont though... oh well...i'm feeling a little better today....it has been 3 months since we broke up anyways....just yesterday finding out she probably had sex with another guy really brought back a lot of the hurt...
adfsdf Posted December 9, 2003 Posted December 9, 2003 why don't u do us all a favor and go shoot urself...
julieg Posted December 9, 2003 Posted December 9, 2003 she is dating someone new who appears to be more exciting than you. my ex immediately started with a girl after our breakup to get over me. in my imagination i pictured them together and happier than we ever were. your mind can really play tricks on you. it was both of our first love and dated for 4 years. he used her to get over me- i broke up with him. he eventually married her as i never contacted him after the breakup- it was too too hard to see him. your ex may be like me- after the breakup i loved all the attention i got from other guys. she undoubtedly is experiencing the ups and downs of the dating scene. i remember a few guys who seemed to be genuine only to find out they were only after one thing. when this would happen it made me really miss what i had given up!!!
sarah12 Posted December 11, 2003 Posted December 11, 2003 ouchmyheart - yeah you're right..if she's looking for excuses to why she broke up with you then maybe she is doubting her decision..either way, I think it is good that you are letting go and she is also seeing the ups and downs of being single..after a break up, you always need some time apart. Don't worry about her dating though..there are always highs and lows to being single, just like there are when you are exclusively dating. You always want what you can't have..when you're single, you want a relationship..when you're in a relationship, you wonder what it's like to be single. It's like a huge catch -22..but yeah, the wanting to be single thing lasts a few months or so, then most people start feeling like they'd like to have someone in their life. You mentioned that you missed out on college life b/c of this girl..well, here's your chance. You're in 3rd year..I assume you have one more year after this. I'm in my last year right now and I have had some of the the best times of my life this past term even..I met a lot of new people and studied hard and partied hard.. I got closer to my close friends and in general saw a whole new perspective on life...this is the time of your life, don't let it go to waste. Get out there every opportunity you have and don't let yourself mope while you're out. Have a good time, get wasted, meet girls, have confidence in yourself and you will be fine.. Trix - you mentioned that you are still best friends with your ex. Isn't it a bit of a strange situation? If you get involved with another guy at some point in time, which you undoubtedly probably will, do you think you'll still be good friends with the ex? I am just asking out of curiousity..I've never had a relationship longer than my first love..which was just 1 yr..and we are not friends anymore..mostly b/c he is still not over me..
XNemesisX Posted January 20, 2004 Posted January 20, 2004 julieg I can totally relate to what you said. I too have been in the situation where I have decided I liked another guy, other than my boyfriend, only to see that the other guy only wanted one thing. As far as the dating scene, it can become quite frustrating because you may think you have found someone worthwhile only to realize they were only after sex. Makes you really miss what you had with the guy that really gave a crap. : / As far as your situation, Ouchmyheart, I can relate too. 3 months may seem like enough time to get over someone but if the feelings are really strong I think it can take well beyond 3 months. Sometimes I wonder if I will ever get over this one particular person and believe me, it is goin into the years category. I know that must be hard for you having to know that she probably hooked up with someone else. When I think about my last boyfriend cheating on me it plays like a movie in my head and of course I glamorize it to be like hot and heavy best sex of his life sex when it probably wasn't. I agree with the other posters..go out and do stuff. I'm in my 3rd year of college also and I mope around a WHOLE lot to where my friends actually have to basically drag me out of my apartment to get me to do anything. I was thinking about this the other night actually. Here I am in my 3rd year...almost done with college..and what do I have to show for it as far as fun? I have had a boyfriend consistently through college and missed out on a lot of fun. Luckily, my friends are still interested in hangin out with me..if not for them I would be in a really tough and lonely position. I am starting to force myself to go out and once I do finally force myself to get out instead of listening to Radiohead, chain smoking, and reminiscing constantly...I sure do feel a heck of a lot better before I know it. I know this sounds bad, but go out and have some drinks with your friends...you will feel so much better. I'm with you on the "gettin over it" thing. I hope that time really does heal all wounds....I'm trying to keep holdin on to that thought! Good luck to you!
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