trippyboy101 Posted July 2, 2009 Posted July 2, 2009 a couple days ago my girlfriend went to a party and i couldn't because i was in the hospital. the next day she told me she really couldn't talk to me because her friend was upset the guy she liked was a player and she needed her. yesterday one of her friends was talking to me about the party and said my girlfriend had a water-fight with a guy and he started tickling and flirting with her about how he liked her scream, and her friend told me she flirted back and said "you wanna hear more?" and winked. then her friend said she was grinding on him a lot that night. her friend said she asked her about it and my girlfriend told her she had a "stupid little thing" with him and that it probably wouldn't happen again and that she doubted she'd have feelings for him in the future. before her friend told me this we had an argument one night because she thought my friend was trying to hook me up with another girl and she said "at least my friends aren't tryinig to set me up with Chris", i asked her who Chris was and she said she just made the name up. it turns out that the guy she was with name is Chris. when we started going out she told me if she ever see's drama she'll run for hills and that she wont have anything to do with drama. how can i talk to her about it without it causing trouble for her friend and a potential break up for us? i really want to know the truth. things have been great lately she tells me i'm like no other guy in the world and that i'm her true love, and we always talk to each other as much as possible how do i not ruin our relationship? am i just jealous? did she cheat? what should i do?
GorillaTheater Posted July 2, 2009 Posted July 2, 2009 Yeah, in my opinion she probably did cross that line and cheated on you. I doubt that she would have "grinded" on this guy in your presence (one test for what constitutes cheating), and didn't admit to it (honesty being another test). Maybe, just maybe, you could talk it through with her. But it sounds like this would constitute "drama" in her book. You might want to try anyways, so if nothing else you'll know that you gave it your best shot. If you trust the people that gave you the information, that would be enough for me to call it quits. I wouldn't put up with that level of disrespect for either me or the relationship.
GorillaTheater Posted July 2, 2009 Posted July 2, 2009 Oh, and just to add: your jealousy is well-founded. I wouldn't feel bad about feeling that way at all. The question you'll have to think about is what you're going to do about it.
Untouchable_Fire Posted July 2, 2009 Posted July 2, 2009 things have been great lately she tells me i'm like no other guy in the world and that i'm her true love, and we always talk to each other as much as possible how do i not ruin our relationship? am i just jealous? did she cheat? what should i do? What she tells you is meaningless if she can't back it up with actions. Now... Why did her friend tell you this stuff? What is the friends motive here? You need to step up an tell your GF that you are now hearing rumors from people about her relationship with this Chris guy! You don't have to give her any details... just ask her to explain it. All you need from her is to explain WTF is going on.
Author trippyboy101 Posted July 2, 2009 Author Posted July 2, 2009 What she tells you is meaningless if she can't back it up with actions. Now... Why did her friend tell you this stuff? What is the friends motive here? You need to step up an tell your GF that you are now hearing rumors from people about her relationship with this Chris guy! You don't have to give her any details... just ask her to explain it. All you need from her is to explain WTF is going on. her friend said she had to tell me because i'm a great guy and she didn't want me to get hurt. the last time i consulted her about a rumor i heard about one of her friends she got mad at me and broke up with me for a day saying that i was starting drama and that she didn't need that in her life. also...i'm starting to think that when she had to cheer "her friend up" she actually meant herself. her friend told me he was the biggest player at their school..
lora22 Posted July 2, 2009 Posted July 2, 2009 Sounds like the only person "starting drama" is your gf (and her friends), and that accusing you of that is a way of not dealing with you and/or your emotions and VALID concerns. She's trying to use that as a "get out of jail free card."
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