EmptyPromises Posted July 2, 2009 Posted July 2, 2009 im finally feeling better, i find myself not obsessing about him as much and looking on the brighter side. i found another guy to talk to...weve just been texting but even that attention makes me feel better. me and my ex were together for a year.. broke up for 2months... he was the one caught texting other girls and i found myself begging HIM back...2 months later im wishing i just kicked him to the curb the second i saw those texts..i wasted so much time. im realizing now that 2 months has passed and ihavent touched another person...and that he probably has. i need to start looking for love elsewhere. i tried no contact several times...we havent had much contact the past 8 days..he called me on monday and i was so pissed off at him i told him i didnt want to talk to or see him anymore.my grandfather had a stroke that night and hasnt been doign very well. ive been so tempted to shoot him a text telilng him that...but honestly whats the point in that? although im happier this past week sometimes i find myself wondering why he hasnt called me or texted me. he doesnt love me like he said he doese..its clear. and im ready to move on.. i think. he was dragging me on for these past 2 months.. if he wanted to be with me it would have happened already. im done trying to be with him... u shouldnt have to force love.. im really really bitter towards him/angry that he did this to us. he really took me for granted. im a wonderful girl and he treated me with such disrespect. i literally dont ever want to be wtih him again unless hes 100 percent different...and that wont happen.
brock9911 Posted July 2, 2009 Posted July 2, 2009 i hear what your saying, but i wouldnt say your over him, if your bitter and angry, you still have feelings toward the relationship. believe me my ex cheated on me and i still took her back because i loved her. the thing is her love grew stronger for some reason and mine drifted away cuz of what she did. she broke up with me and blamed me for cheating...hypocrite. and the no contact...yeah well that lasted a few weeks until she blew up my phone and said she needed to know where we stood and if theres ever a chance. i havent answered her cuz im not sure, but she doesnt deserve me and he doesnt deserve you. if they can go behind our backs and cheat, or text and talk to other girls, than let them have there fun. i'll take my affection elsewhere. as for the new guy, i found a new girl and it totally took my mind off my ex for that time. rebounds can really help in the beginning weather its sexual or not. well hope my story helped
Cattery Posted July 2, 2009 Posted July 2, 2009 he was dragging me on for these past 2 months.. if he wanted to be with me it would have happened already. im done trying to be with him... u shouldnt have to force love.. im really really bitter towards him/angry that he did this to us. he really took me for granted. im a wonderful girl and he treated me with such disrespect. i literally dont ever want to be wtih him again unless hes 100 percent different...and that wont happen. Sounds like your heart is trying to get your head on board. You already know what's best for you, this paragraph says it all. Be well! Attention is nice, but don't worry so much about replacing him as much as feeling good in your own skin with or without someone. You deserve that and attract better people when you do!
Author EmptyPromises Posted July 2, 2009 Author Posted July 2, 2009 i know im only in the beginning stages of getting over him, but its better than where i was before,being the pathetic crying girl begging him back... weve been texting the past few hours he asked me if i was going on a date with someone and i said what do u care..then it started a huge text message face..finally i just called him and said look im sorry for being a bitch im just really bitter about this whole thing...and we agreed to be respectful and that i needed him to leave me alone to move on because he was not helping by texting me. right now im kind of feeling a little sad...mayeb its because i was talking to him .. this is the reason why i cant talk to him. just sucks because i wanted it so bad and he just threw it all away.
sedgwick Posted July 3, 2009 Posted July 3, 2009 Why didn't you block him from your phone the day you broke up? Seriously, I don't understand why people keep dragging out the fights after their breakups!
Author EmptyPromises Posted July 5, 2009 Author Posted July 5, 2009 i did do that at one point and then unblocked him just in case he wanted to get back together... but now im just letting him call and text me and am not responding. hes called me twice in the past 2 days im sitting home alone on the 4th of july wishing i had someone to spend it with its funny watching all these tv shows and movies showing people in love..i want that. i want a guy that treats me like a princess.
Road To Joy Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 i did do that at one point and then unblocked him just in case he wanted to get back together... but now im just letting him call and text me and am not responding. hes called me twice in the past 2 days im sitting home alone on the 4th of july wishing i had someone to spend it with its funny watching all these tv shows and movies showing people in love..i want that. i want a guy that treats me like a princess. You're doing yourself no good but dragging out your pain. I wouldn't consider what you're doing NC. You're seeing his missed calls and texts and in a way, enjoying it, since you know he's thinking of you. What about when he's done with it and stops? What about when he starts seeing someone else and stops? Will you decide to start your healing THEN? People can only advice you so much. What you really want will sometimes overpower what you need, and it's good to think logically with most cases. Are you thinking logically? I know how lonely it can be. I know how you think NOBODY understands you and how your situation is way different than everybody else's. But take a moment to sit down and think, really think. Not about what you want necessarily (if it involves him), but what you NEED, for your own sanity. Good luck and I apologize for any comments that may have appeared to be cold, or harsh. Don't forget we're going through it as well (including myself). You're not alone.
Author EmptyPromises Posted July 5, 2009 Author Posted July 5, 2009 You're doing yourself no good but dragging out your pain. I wouldn't consider what you're doing NC. You're seeing his missed calls and texts and in a way, enjoying it, since you know he's thinking of you. What about when he's done with it and stops? What about when he starts seeing someone else and stops? Will you decide to start your healing THEN? . i completely agree...i do get joy out of seeing his calls and texts...yesterday he was texting me and i called him and just said i think we should both be respectful towards eachother and move on, that hes an awesome guy just not a good match for me... he took it the wrong way and started texting me such mean things...calling me a slut...giving me advice for my next boyfriend.. he texted me at 12 saying he was with someone from my town and couldnt believe the **** the kid was saying. i havent hooked up with ne one yet, and i doubt he was even with someone from my town, but idk why hes being so immature about this. this is what he wanted wasnt it? for me to accept it and move on? were not even in a relationship and hes still treating me like ****. i do love the kid but i no were not a match and theres no point in being with him when he doesnt want to change his ways. i am going out on a date sometime this week. hopefully that will help.
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