bluesky123 Posted July 2, 2009 Posted July 2, 2009 So I've been broken up for one month now, going to the gym hanging out with friends and keeping busy. I've been NC as well but I feel like **** today. Every woman I look at does not compare to the one that left me, today I saw a picture of her having funshe looked so happy. It made me sad and angry. Whenever I'm out I try to have the best time but something still is not right. I 'm venting !
bella16 Posted July 2, 2009 Posted July 2, 2009 It has only been a little over a month so it is normal. Don't stop keeping busy. It'll be almost 3 weeks since my ex broke things off. I was a complete mess for almost 2 weeks and then I kept going to my kickboxing classes, working, going out on the weekends with friends. I was starting to get over it and accept it for what it was. As soon as I stopped thinking about it all and started to heal... BOOM! He calls in the middle of the night last weekend (I didn't answer), and he has been texting me everyday since that night! It happens. If you haven't been trying to contact her than that is even better on your part! Sorry that you are going through this still, but I can honestly say I was feeling the same exact way just a little while ago and now I'm not upset anymore.
asuman Posted July 2, 2009 Posted July 2, 2009 So I've been broken up for one month now, going to the gym hanging out with friends and keeping busy. I've been NC as well but I feel like **** today. Every woman I look at does not compare to the one that left me, today I saw a picture of her having funshe looked so happy. It made me sad and angry. Whenever I'm out I try to have the best time but something still is not right. I 'm venting ! Oh man, you are by no means alone. The thought that keeps screwing up my day is, "She's so beautiful. Stunning, really. How the hell am I going to find someone that beautiful again? It's impossible! I never will! All the beautiful ones are married by this age, and the ones who aren't are mentally deranged!" And so on and so forth. (Her being beautiful was not the only aspect of her that attracted me to her, of course. Which explains why I fell for her so hard.) But, you have to be logical. A. Of COURSE there is someone out there as beautiful or as awesome as she was. You just have to set your standards and look for her. B. She was not as awesome as you think she was. Take her down from that pedestal. For one thing, a person can't be that awesome if they were in a relationship with you but didn't love you. I mean, I wouldn't mind being in a relationship with Jennifer Anniston. But if she didn't care about me, ignored me and generally treated me like crap, I don't think I could tolerate such a situation for very long. Please don't tell me that dating your ex was more awesome than it would be to date Jennifer Anniston. Don't even try. .
babiedoll131984 Posted July 2, 2009 Posted July 2, 2009 I am sorry for what both of you are going throught. It is good for me to know I am not the only one feeling like this.
Author bluesky123 Posted July 2, 2009 Author Posted July 2, 2009 Something intresting I found out this weekend, we have mutal friends (couples), most of them found out threw the grape vine that we had split. They telephones her and from what I hearing she was very vague in her explantion of why we broke up. Her friends where in shock as well , weird eh ?
asuman Posted July 2, 2009 Posted July 2, 2009 Something intresting I found out this weekend, we have mutal friends (couples), most of them found out threw the grape vine that we had split. They telephones her and from what I hearing she was very vague in her explantion of why we broke up. Her friends where in shock as well , weird eh ? If I were you I'd stay away from doing this kind of exploratory work. Just walk away.
Author bluesky123 Posted July 2, 2009 Author Posted July 2, 2009 We were all at supper and it just came up. It's been hard but the only contact I've had with her was an email about three weeks ago. I am following protocol, no nasty phone calls, text msg's. I just leaving her alone, I guess she is truly happy with her new life !
Exit Posted July 3, 2009 Posted July 3, 2009 Just strap yourself in and enjoy the rollercoaster. Be glad that you care about something in life enough to feel these emotions. It will get better with time. Stop checking her pictures to see who she's with etc etc, just hurting yourself.
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