Author Soul Bear Posted July 3, 2009 Author Posted July 3, 2009 Thanks, narf and andy I wont reply...I cant reply. Partly cos I still love her, partly cos her emails and attitude are really NOT ON. It's tough!! but hey, at least I can keep smiling Guess it does make me feel better having outside views that it looks like she DOES and IS feeling bad/missing me to a certain minute extent.... I think you explained it right Ausman, that is pretty much what she was saying. Although, as we all know, it is easier to see these things outside the box than it is for the person it's happening to.
kizik Posted July 3, 2009 Posted July 3, 2009 This link may or may not help you. She's either highly selfish, or an actual NPD. http://narcissists-suck.blogspot.com/
Author Soul Bear Posted July 4, 2009 Author Posted July 4, 2009 Thanks Kizik... Reading over it, I think she is just being highly selfish... Selfish ego.... Incredibly so....
jlr Posted July 4, 2009 Posted July 4, 2009 "but its purpose was to act as a training ground for us each to learn how to give good love so that we'd be prepared for when we meet our True Loves" That statement alone pissed me off. My ex said something similar to me. That's the biggest load of bull**** I've ever heard. These people just don't get love or how it really works. Geezus.
drummerprince81 Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 A training ground indeed. What the hell is this girl smoking? So she makes out that what she had with SB was some kind of apprenticeship??! I must say, receiving such an email myself would probably make me feel physically sick. This email is 'friendly' in essence but she has not considered SB's feelings at all with some of her wordings... SB - its good that you are not responding. If you do, we are all gonna kick your butt.
wow123 Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 She has no consideration for your feelings soulbear. I'm sorry man.
Author Soul Bear Posted July 5, 2009 Author Posted July 5, 2009 JLR- That statement alone pissed me off- tell me about it!!!! GRRRRRRR!!! DP- You got the jist of it, it is 'friendly'....in essence....but as far as considering my feelings goes...oh boy....im livid....im hurt...but most of all, I dont think she has 'forgiven(!?)' me...she is mearly trying to assuge her guilt....I can only hope she rreads this back in a month or so and thinks to herself 'omg...I am the worlds biggest bitch'....seriously, I'm SO ****ing angry...and she is smoking stuff...im not anymore.... Im not going to reply, dont worry, in not doing so, i gain more power, she loses power Ruby- a little cukoo?...understatement !! WOW123- dont be sorry, she will see sooner or later...im just shocked at her incosideration...i have never seen this side of her before...her emails and so....whats the word im looking for....carhill got it- its like someone is reading from a book....its so 'propper'...selfish ego...damnit...i cant explain
fabulous_chk Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 My love it's gonna be okay. Just cut her off completely, she's destroying you. I met up with my ex's mom and brother today and I have told them there is no reconciliation, just friendship. Also hinted that I might not come back to visit again. It hurt, because I love them, they're my second family but it's better to burn bridges completely. Let go of the past. You are a f*u.c.k.i.n.g amazing guy. Gorgeous as hell. Remember that. Forget she ever existed. I love you my bear. Feel better.
MrGeorge Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 hi solebear, What your going thru I wouldn't wish on my own enemy . Hang in there. It felt like sucking chest wound it happened to me when my first wife and I parted; peace geo_bic
Author Soul Bear Posted July 23, 2009 Author Posted July 23, 2009 aaaaaaaahhhhhhhh!!! help me... i really want to establish contact again.... this email is eating at me, it has been ever since i received it.....nor have i replied i have not received ANY contact since, i have been consciously checking my email ever day...i know i know, im bad...i thought NC was meant to make me feel better???!!! i have bveen a month NC now and i feel like S H I T! I know her email; was somewhat inconsiderate etc.... i just cant shake the feeling that i should try another aproach now im more mentaly more stable....in some respects i.e no begging or pleading.... im half a mind to move back to our cirty with our mutual firends now i lost my job.... its my birthday on monday....im going NUTS...... i wish someone knew the future, or the right answers.... part of me is thinking that i should have replied, another that i should keep NC....i dont ewant to...i want her back, i dont care who she has been with.... im gonna regret reading this back tomorow i have met SO many women in london, none of them even come close to her.... this is pissing me the **** off
NopeNah Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 aaaaaaaahhhhhhhh!!! help me... i really want to establish contact again.... this email is eating at me, it has been ever since i received it.....nor have i replied i have not received ANY contact since, i have been consciously checking my email ever day...i know i know, im bad...i thought NC was meant to make me feel better???!!! i have bveen a month NC now and i feel like S H I T! I know her email; was somewhat inconsiderate etc.... i just cant shake the feeling that i should try another aproach now im more mentaly more stable....in some respects i.e no begging or pleading.... im half a mind to move back to our cirty with our mutual firends now i lost my job.... its my birthday on monday....im going NUTS...... i wish someone knew the future, or the right answers.... part of me is thinking that i should have replied, another that i should keep NC....i dont ewant to...i want her back, i dont care who she has been with.... im gonna regret reading this back tomorow i have met SO many women in london, none of them even come close to her.... this is pissing me the **** off Happy birthday!! Do not contact her!!! You know nothing good will come from it. Wait 45 more days....THEN....Don't contact her!
Author Soul Bear Posted July 23, 2009 Author Posted July 23, 2009 im gonna regret reading this back tomorow Yup. Thanks P4
drummerprince81 Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 I knew I wouldn't be away for too long. Soul - do you know what I think you could do with? A holiday somewhere. I think the less you do with your ex, the less damage you can do...she has shown her true colours. You know that. You are having a terrible time, but just take a break for yourself. Heck if you are looking for someone to go travelling with I'm thinking of going myself in November LOL but seriously, take a break and know things can't get much worse for you. Things may not be better for a long while. Just know that things will get better eventually. I'm in the same boat as you remember, although my ex has been contacting me lately. There is still nothing I can do, except doing something for myself. Its hard, coz everything I do I think of her constantly. If I'm playing football, I think of her when I don't have the ball. Every song I listen to I somehow associate with her. Its ridiculous. But deep down, even if I don't believe, things will work out. They have to!
CaliGuy Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 Just as i thought i was starting to recover doing NC, she sends me this email.. Bear in mind I have not replied to her last one and have been total NC since. What is she looking for? validation? I still have not, and will not reply...just want to know what she is playing at...it's pretty condescending... i havent even rebounded yet! just been working on myself...grrrr I'm sorry, I could've been a bit softer in that last email.. Truth is, I hadn't forgiven you at all, in fact the more I reflected on our relationship the more I saw instances of the hurt you caused me. That's changed now, I truly do forgive you. You merely acted out the part you had to play so that I could be the person I am today, and for that I do thank you. I know there was something very beautiful and pure about our relationship, but its purpose was to act as a training ground for us each to learn how to give good love so that we'd be prepared for when we meet our True Loves. I certainly learned my lessons along the way, and I've no doubt that you will too. You truly are a wonderful and remarkable person, and I wish you the very best in life. Some insight would be great please Soul I read this as her "closure" -- nothing more, nothing less. If I were you I would accept this as truly the end.
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