moo Posted July 2, 2009 Posted July 2, 2009 At 1:19 this morning central time, I became all healed up. I'm leaving the site. Thank you for letting me vent. moo
Chrome Barracuda Posted July 2, 2009 Posted July 2, 2009 Stay a while moo, you could learn alot here from us, besides raising hell. I take it that your feeling better and made a breakthrough about the breakup?
Author moo Posted July 2, 2009 Author Posted July 2, 2009 yes...well maybe I should stay awhile in case I regress.
Chrome Barracuda Posted July 2, 2009 Posted July 2, 2009 Not just regress, but this is a community with open arms. They say I'm brazen but I'm more of a realist. things are gonna be better in no time. lol. What made you heal so soon?
Prodigal Princess Posted July 2, 2009 Posted July 2, 2009 Yay moo, stay! It's been getting so lame lately, we really need more arse-kickers around. You can help me wipe all of the goddamn hippies from this site.
Author moo Posted July 2, 2009 Author Posted July 2, 2009 I think about how much better off I am without him and that he is really, really screwed up. Maybe the term "healed" was too optimistic. However, I've been sticking to the NC, every day for 9 days now, no calls, no emails, nothing at all and I reward myself every day.
Exit Posted July 2, 2009 Posted July 2, 2009 Good to hear about your progress, but don't jump the gun. Many of us get that sudden rush of feelings like "wow, I'm over it!", but that can easily change as you continue to ride the rollercoaster of emotions. You've done good with NC and you probably ARE coming to some serious realizations about this person, but don't force yourself to say you're healed so quickly. Even if you've decided that this person was complete scum, it's still perfectly acceptable to miss someone who meant something to you. But all that matters is that you're feeling good about it tonight, congrats!!
Author moo Posted July 2, 2009 Author Posted July 2, 2009 you are right. I need to be a little bit more slower and know that I might stumble and fall in the healing process.
ON MY OWN Posted July 2, 2009 Posted July 2, 2009 you are right. I need to be a little bit more slower and know that I might stumble and fall in the healing process. Yes. I am glad you are feeling good. The healing process is a process though. It has been since the day after Easter since my engagement ended and I have many awesome days and am meeting new men also. I am choosing to be single so I can be sure as to not hurt anyone by being too mistrusting or unsure. I dont want to do to anyone what was done to me and take care in how my healing is coming along. I dont obsess on it, am just conscience of it so I can do what is best for myself. Timing is everything when it comes to relationships. Stay on a while. It is also therapeutic if you can help even 1 other person from your pain/healing too. Congrats, you have come so far. Continue to stay strong!! We at LS are proud of you!!
Lyssa Posted July 2, 2009 Posted July 2, 2009 Glad you have healed! Also, I am glad that you decided to stay - I enjoyed all your posts so far.
asuman Posted July 2, 2009 Posted July 2, 2009 Lucky you to feel so good. Be careful about rushing to conclusions that you're over it though. I've had some break-throughs too as of late, in my situation. But I know I'm not out of the woods, because the first thing I think about when I wake up in the mornings is her, and the last thing I think about when I go to sleep at night, is her. When that's no longer true, I know I'll be done.
Thomas X Forever Posted July 2, 2009 Posted July 2, 2009 When you consciously think you're over it, that's when things actually begin. You're nowhere near over it when you think that, the first time at least. You're really over it when you don't think you're over it, because you aren't thinking about it, because you don't care, since you're over it. Hope you haven't lowered your shield moo
Author moo Posted July 3, 2009 Author Posted July 3, 2009 All the feelings of anger, betrayal, wanting to call him, saddness came back. Yes, I realize I am not over this person. I woke up thinking of him today. I will continue to take it one day at a time. Also, I'm staying off the dating websites. Thanks for your support. moo
Exit Posted July 3, 2009 Posted July 3, 2009 That's perfectly ok, don't feel bad about it. During the day, when I'm in control of my thoughts, I'm "over" my ex too, but still when I first wake up, I can't help but think about her. You are still making progress, don't get discouraged. Think about the things that made you feel confident that you were over it the other night.
Battlewax Posted July 3, 2009 Posted July 3, 2009 That's perfectly ok, don't feel bad about it. During the day, when I'm in control of my thoughts, I'm "over" my ex too, but still when I first wake up, I can't help but think about her. You are still making progress, don't get discouraged. Think about the things that made you feel confident that you were over it the other night. I know what you mean on this one. This entire week I didn't think much about her. Even ignored one of her texts. Yesterday was probably the best because I woke up and it was the middle of the afternoon before she popped in my head. Today... not so much. ugh.
asuman Posted July 3, 2009 Posted July 3, 2009 All the feelings of anger, betrayal, wanting to call him, saddness came back. Yes, I realize I am not over this person. I woke up thinking of him today. I will continue to take it one day at a time. Also, I'm staying off the dating websites. Thanks for your support. moo The fact that you still experienced a "high" and a feeling that you were done with him, even if it didn't last, means you're making solid progress. You're getting there, don't worry. Let the lows come, be sad about them, and be confident that they will pass.
JamesM Posted July 3, 2009 Posted July 3, 2009 Last thing I remember, I was Running for the door I had to find the passage back To the place I was before Relax, said the night man, We are programmed to receive. You can checkout any time you like, But you can never leave! Welcome to Love Shack. Leaving is never an option...for long.
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