adorablebabiii Posted July 2, 2009 Posted July 2, 2009 Kinda long.. Sorry! Me and this girl started out as friends 9 months ago. We pretty much talked everynight on the phone and if not we were texting. We both started getting serious feelings for each other and the "long distance" issue came up. I told her that i was moving to where she was in late May early June. We discussed, was aware of it and continued to talk. Well on New Years Eve, she confessed to me that she wanted to make it official despite of the distance, so we made it "official" everything was great. Well we planned for me to tak a trip out to where she was (where im from as well) I flew out there. The same day she wanted to see me and start "our" weekend, my grandmother had a stroke, so i ended up stayin at the hospital that night, not the entire weekend. Well, she was indeed upset because she felt like i stood her up etc... She had made it very clear that she wasnt going to come back out my way to get me etc.. So the following day, i texted her and asked her if she wanted to come get me (just to double check) i was free. She told me that if i could find a ride she would meet me half way but she wasnt coming back up my way. So i gave up at that point because i didnt have a ride. The weekend came and gone, i flew back home that Sunday, We spoke very brief sunday. Monday comes around and she tells me we cannot be together anymore. Im extremly devastated. We begin to be cool with each other as time gets closer to me moving to where she is. Talking everyday.. her telling me she loves me etc... The time is now for me to move down to where she is.. everything is great So she wants to pick me up from the airport and my godparents beat her too, so i INVITE her to come over and hang up. She states its to late she has to work in the morning, but asks me can i come see her Monday. I tell her i need to go to the rental place to get me a car and she states okay she can take me Friday. So from Monday til wednesday she is being really rude to me flirting with other girls to where i can see etc.. So we get into it on Wed. i dont hear from her at all on Thursday so i end up just making a way that friday to get a rental car. I text her later that friday night to come hang out at a club with me she ignores my text message and ends up going to a totally different club. The next day gets upset with me because i went and did what i had to do as far as taking care of business. So we get into it again. This continues for 2 weeks. She tells me im a liar and i always put her on the back burner when i tried making time for her, just wasnt always on her time she was free. I even asked her to go pick up my daughter from my bestfriends house so they could spend time without me there since she "loved her" so much, thinking when i went to get my daughter that would enable us to seeing each other and she stated no. So ive ended all communication. Sorry so long, but my question is, did i do something wrong? I made a major move and was trying to get my life settle for not only me but my daughter. What could i have done different, and will she ever realize that i made a sacarfice for her?? Will she ever realize that i loved her with all my heart??
boogieboy Posted July 2, 2009 Posted July 2, 2009 Yeah you were wrong, you got involved with a psycho. I dont know what you might be leaving out from your story, but you make her sound like she randomly gets mad at you and randomly ignores you.
moo Posted July 2, 2009 Posted July 2, 2009 It's really hard, at least for me, to find male partners that are mentally stable. Either they have narcissitic traits, antisocial personality disorder traits, major depression traits, lack basic empathy skills, and/or are extremely child-like.
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