Hamz Posted July 2, 2009 Posted July 2, 2009 So, I met this guy at the end of April while I was out for my friend's bday. He's a friend of a friend's friend type-of-thing who I met toward the end of that night, after we'd both been drinking quite a lot. We ended up talking and flirting and having a good time, and then I left with my friends. Neither of us exchanged info but the following day he emailed a friend of mine to say that it was nice meeting me, he thought I was a lot of fun, cute, etc. and asked if he could get my number. I told her why not. So then he did call me, left a nice message and then we talked the next day. We went out several times-- dinner, drinks mostly-- and then one night I ended up back at his place and we made out and things were progressing, physically. I stopped things before we had sex because there was something that I had to tell him and I just wasn't ready to (that something is that my ex- gave my hsv1 last september after he cheated on me). We went out the following week and after I had many many drinks we wound up back at his place, and I told him what was going on with me. He was very understanding and caring and concerned about how I was feeling. He seemed to very much appreciate me telling him. So then we did hook up and then again the next morning. So then I thought things were okay. But then I of course started freaking out because I wasn't hearing much from him and assumed he was freaked out. A few nights later i asked him if he wanted to go to dinner that night and he couldnt, but would like to get together the following week (we both were going out of town). So I thought, okay cool. Well then he never called to set something up and after much freaking out I kinda just wrote him off. Then one night at 12:30 in the morning he texted me out of the blue to ask if I made it back from my trip and how i was doing. I responded the next day, to which he didn't respond. Then I, again, didn't hear from him for like 4 or 5 days. The other night he texted me saying his mom was in town over the weekend and what I was doing that week. We texted back and forth, he never answered my question of what he was doing this week and then that was that. Didn't ask me out, nothing was set up. So today I sent him a text asking what was going on this week and if he wants to get together. He has not responded. So I'm thinking, wtf. Why doesn't he just ask me out. Why does he just barely keep in touch. Think he has a gf?
losingpatients Posted July 3, 2009 Posted July 3, 2009 yes i would say something weird is going on. when they can only be bothered to text you and not answer anything you have said , especially early hours of morning..BEWARE!! they are either, drunk and bored, or lonely or all 3. ive had that before and nothing came of it as he thought i was just there to talk to when he wanted 24/7. NO WAY!! Best bet is to either txt him and be straight up as to ask how come he never answers you or just ignore a coulpe of his txts and see if he continues to txt you...if not then he clearly is not interested. Or just lay down the rule that you wil only ask him out again once more as you have better things to do then hang around playing hot and cold!! so its his choice.?
Surfer Dude Posted July 3, 2009 Posted July 3, 2009 Did you actually have sex? If not, he probably freaked out because of the herpes thing.
torranceshipman Posted July 3, 2009 Posted July 3, 2009 He's messing you around - withdraw immediately. This shows him that you have high standards and won't give time to a guy who d*cks you around. If he wants you he needs to make a big effort. If he doesn't want to pursue something with you, then don't take it personally - everyone wants different things in life, no matter how lovely, smart, sweet, etc you are. Just stop contact with him unless he makes an effort to initiate.
Author Hamz Posted July 5, 2009 Author Posted July 5, 2009 Yes, we did actually have sex which is confusing because I thought that maybe he was just freaked out. That's not to say that he hasn't thought about it and then freaked out. He did finally write back to my text asking him if he wanted to hang out. Two days later I got two texts from him-- the first one saying he wants to hang out but work is busy and that he may be going out of town for the weekend but if not then he def wants to see me. The second one was saying the first one didn't go through on time, and that he hopes I had a good night and a good weekend. I haven't responded.
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