Surfer Dude Posted July 3, 2009 Posted July 3, 2009 Perhaps retarded juveniles should stay away from the written word, even in unsophisticated places such as anonomous internet forums, hm? Oh, we've started insulting each others? F*ck man, I though you were smarter than this. I guess sexual frustration takes it's toll on people's psyche. Now I have to block you. Too bad.
Woggle Posted July 3, 2009 Posted July 3, 2009 I don't have a need for sexual variety but I do feel that the player lifestyle is the best way to live for a man. It certainly has the most rewards and when a woman stops being lovable you can simply dump her and find a new one. Commiting to a woman these days more often than not just means drama and heartbreak for a man.
Stark Posted July 3, 2009 Posted July 3, 2009 Oh, we've started insulting each others? F*ck man, I though you were smarter than this. I guess sexual frustration takes it's toll on people's psyche. Now I have to block you. Too bad. I think you will find that it's you that started the insulting first with: Perhaps it's best that no fun people who hate sex simply stay away from sex. It's possible to have a very high sex drive yet be content with the one partner and in the mean time make do with masturbation. To imply that anyone that doesn't go around banging anything that moves hates sex is like saying that anyone who doesn't eat junk food when possible is anorexic and hates eating. It's insulting and a rather poor straw man statement.
Author Sam Spade Posted July 3, 2009 Author Posted July 3, 2009 I don't have a need for sexual variety but I do feel that the player lifestyle is the best way to live for a man. It certainly has the most rewards and when a woman stops being lovable you can simply dump her and find a new one. Commiting to a woman these days more often than not just means drama and heartbreak for a man. But, you can always do that, it's not so much a function of lifestyle. Sure it is much easier to maintain boundaries in player lifestyle (and conversely, it takes constant vigilance to not let your boundaries erode little by little over time in a marriage), but if your wife turns a sharp turn to the worst, and without provocation, you can, and stil should dump her, no matter the emotional and financeial costs of divorce . So, while I agree with the above, I finally realised that I'll be A-oK no matter whas, as long if i'm a true gentleman, like my mom raised me . The punches of life make it easy to forget how important this is And if something doesn't go the way it should In a relationship (or marriage), a gentleman always has the option to politely excuse himself , and leave a big tip on the way out, if the rules say so .
Author Sam Spade Posted July 3, 2009 Author Posted July 3, 2009 To Mr. Spade, I did write a few things about how evolution and biology can explain human behaviors. In those cases I was trying to explain why some people behave the way they do. I most certainly was not posting a mandate for men to live their lives one way versus another. You're still an individual with a heart and a soul and a brain, and whether or not your biological "urges" pop up from time to time, it does not mean you will feel comfortable or even interested in acting on them. Unfortunately, you can't write something sensible around here without a small but raucous rogue's gallery of lonely, bitter, piss-and-vinegar women (along with some henpecked and p*ssified men) twisting all of your words and accusing you of misogyny. Apparently, because I happen to look for hard truths and not just accept self-delusion when it comes to why people do the things they do, I'm suddenly an advocate for cheating, a commitment-phobe, and everything else that's responsible for THEIR unhappiness. These types of people are just the ones you should try to avoid in your dating life; they hold their own behavior in the highest esteem and complain that everybody else are the ones with the problem. There's no end to their scolding and shaming of other people's pursuit of happiness, and we've seen it played out dozens of times in these threads. But enough about them. The important thing for you is to live your life the way YOU want to live it. If you don't want to date casually, and prefer the company of one woman at a time, you should do that. If your goal is to break Wilt Chamberlain's record, well, you should do that then. If you want to remain celibate, do that. It's YOUR life and don't let anyone else tell you that you "need" to behave one way or another. Personally, I don't think a man's measure is the women he's slept with. It's how he comports himself in all walks of life. I know great men who have been with one woman their entire lives, and I know real sorry SOB's who are (or think they are) stuck with one woman for the rest of their lives. In the end, it boils down to how you treat yourself, and stay true to your goals and desires. Do this, and you will attract a much better stock of female, who will respect you and treat you like a man, not a boy. If there is one thing I agree with Jersey Shortie about, it is that the world is filled with overgrown boys. They will do anything for attention and approval from the opposite sex, and they will always blame women for their unhappiness and heartbreak. They want to go straight from mommy to wife without living their lives and being men, and they never learn that a man does not need a woman to make him happy. Female companionship is the result of a happily lives life, NOT the other way around. I hope that clarifies what I've been saying. Best, samspade Hey, anybody who looks up to Bogie can do no wrong by me ! I disagree with nothing of the above, and the OP is not a direct response to the above views. Importantly, and perhaps ironically, i think that biological determinants of the variety of behaviors are pretty much irrelevant. The baseline urges are always there, but whether or not people act on them is socially and personally conditioned process. Case in point, there is a huge difference between a guy who sticks with a marriage because he wants to, and a guy who is stuck in one because he can't find anything better do do. I doubt their need to screw is different. Conversely, there is nothing wrong with crewing around if that's what you want to do (and it is sad to screw around because you can't establish a more stable relationship). Basically, no choice is wrong as long as it doesn't 1) hurts others (or self) or 2) is blamed on others
Woggle Posted July 3, 2009 Posted July 3, 2009 But, you can always do that, it's not so much a function of lifestyle. Sure it is much easier to maintain boundaries in player lifestyle (and conversely, it takes constant vigilance to not let your boundaries erode little by little over time in a marriage), but if your wife turns a sharp turn to the worst, and without provocation, you can, and stil should dump her, no matter the emotional and financeial costs of divorce . So, while I agree with the above, I finally realised that I'll be A-oK no matter whas, as long if i'm a true gentleman, like my mom raised me . The punches of life make it easy to forget how important this is And if something doesn't go the way it should In a relationship (or marriage), a gentleman always has the option to politely excuse himself , and leave a big tip on the way out, if the rules say so . Yeah but if you have kids with her or have been married for a while you can never truly leave her. You will always have to hand over some of your check to her and she will usually have some control over your life.
Author Sam Spade Posted July 3, 2009 Author Posted July 3, 2009 True, but if that ever happens (hopefully not), I'll kill the shrew with good manners, and by making way more money than I did before, just to piss her off. The kids will make their own mind about what's up . Also, we'll communicate exclusively through my lawyer, who I'll make sure is the nastiest lowlife available in 50 mile radius .
neowulf Posted July 3, 2009 Posted July 3, 2009 I've got a theory Sam, but you're probably going to like it even less than your first few I'm 30 myself and the fact is... from a biological standpoint, we're old. Biology has us on *overdrive* trying to mate between the ages of 18 and 25. After the age of 30... well mate, biology assumes we'll be beaten out of the game by the younger, more aggressive males. In that regard, it actually makes for more peaceful society if the older males start to lose some interest, thus preventing them from being killed by the younger, hot headed males coming through. Yes, sad to say that while society is busy telling us "30 is the new 20", our biology doesn't appear to agree.
You'reasian Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 Hahaha, fair enough, I did count the ONSs - 3 out of the 5, to be precise, but didn't count the 2 hookers , just because, well, it doesn't really count . So, 8 femininas in total if we're gona be all technical; I guess it is below the average for a guy from my generation. It still beats me where I found the time, given that I was in looong relationships during most of my 20s. (As for the supposedly good shape, just being modest. Uncle Sam is built like a greek god, Michelangelo's David style [except with a bigger ding-dong ].) femininas? what does that mean? I'm assuming its spanish slang for a woman. When you reach your 30's, chances are you're no longer just looking to have sex, rather a more meaningful relationship? Does this sound like you? Good on you for making yourself look buff, but when I said in shape - I meant from a measurable standard. Good on you for uh the package, man.
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