weeble78 Posted July 1, 2009 Posted July 1, 2009 Do you think that you can be incompatible with your GF/BF e.g. one of you enjoys socialising, the other doesn't, one enjoys travelling, the other watching tv, yet still be in love with them? What if little things they do annoy you, or hurt your feelings unintentionally? I'm currently weighing up whether or not to split with my boyfriend whom I believe I'm incompatible with yet still love -
LisaUk Posted July 1, 2009 Posted July 1, 2009 Of course, it's whether you are able to reach comprimise that matters. If you can talk and work through your differences of opinion that is what makes a healthy relationship. You will never find a realtionship where both people want the same thing at the same time, no relationship is perfect, they all take work, that's what gives them meaning. remember to that people change as they grow older and move through different life experiences, that means relationships change to, so for a relationship to stand the test of time, the ability to work at it must be present. If you can communicate well and find a middle ground then that is what is important and of course love, because love gives you the strength to work on things when the hard times come.
Author weeble78 Posted July 2, 2009 Author Posted July 2, 2009 Of course, it's whether you are able to reach comprimise that matters. If you can talk and work through your differences of opinion that is what makes a healthy relationship. You will never find a realtionship where both people want the same thing at the same time, no relationship is perfect, they all take work, that's what gives them meaning. remember to that people change as they grow older and move through different life experiences, that means relationships change to, so for a relationship to stand the test of time, the ability to work at it must be present. If you can communicate well and find a middle ground then that is what is important and of course love, because love gives you the strength to work on things when the hard times come. Hi LisaUk, that makes things a lot clearer. I guess that sometimes though you need to wonder if it is worth keeping trying to work on things - how much work should a relationship take? I guess there has to be a balance between give and take, and if you feel you're doing all the giving there must be something not right. Sometimes I wonder if some people have better relationships than others, or do they just find it easier to reach a compromise? Are some couples just going to argue more than others naturally?
Island Girl Posted July 2, 2009 Posted July 2, 2009 I guess there has to be a balance between give and take, and if you feel you're doing all the giving there must be something not right. That is it in a nutshell. And when you encounter that problem, address it, and nothing changes then it is best to move on. A healthy relationship will have both partners extending themselves in some way for the other person. Having open honest communication where both people are truly heard and have their needs met is crucial.
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