Author one goal Posted July 5, 2009 Author Posted July 5, 2009 no see you don't want to be friends with her. You want to date her. Big difference right there... So if I contact her again she will think Im stalkerish?
dreamergrl Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 OMG dude, leave the girl alone. She's not interested. You are. You have no intentions on just being friends. Get over. Move on. You're already headed towards stalkerish.
Ruby Slippers Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 She shouldn't have given you her number at all, you're right. She made a mistake, and now she's let you know where she stands. Move on.
Author one goal Posted July 5, 2009 Author Posted July 5, 2009 She shouldn't have given you her number at all, you're right. She made a mistake, and now she's let you know where she stands. Move on. Why did she give me her number then?
Island Girl Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 What is up with you dude? Seriously. You get so fixated on one girl and I can not understand why. She doesn't want to go out with you. Yes she gave you her phone number. Yes that looked promising. BUT NOW it is null and void. She doesn't want to date you. Move on immediately and quit asking "why? why? why?" When someone says they aren't interested accept it and move on. There are millions of other girls out there and you are wasting time even thinking about someone who isn't interested. Move on to another.
Ruby Slippers Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 I understand wanting to know why. Men have asked for my number before, called to ask me out, then flaked out on the date at the last minute. I wonder why. I don't care enough to ponder it more than a few minutes, but I do wonder. I'm not her, so I can't explain why she did what she did. Maybe you caught her at a vulnerable moment, she and her guy just had a fight, she was enjoying the attention, she was kind of interested in spite of being in a relationship, she wanted you to just go away. Who knows? Point is it doesn't matter anymore. Game over. Move on.
dreamergrl Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 How many times are you going to ask why? Where is it going to get you? No where. You're trying to hang on.. but there's no point. Geeze.
Author one goal Posted July 5, 2009 Author Posted July 5, 2009 I mean shes hot though. I wish I could go out with her, then Id get to sleep with her maybe.
Trimmer Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 How many times are you going to ask why? Where is it going to get you? No where. You're trying to hang on.. but there's no point. Geeze. What is up with you dude? Seriously. You get so fixated on one girl and I can not understand why. It may help put things into perspective to understand some of this poster's previous experiences with approaching girls: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t180099/ http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t164405/ I mean shes hot though. I wish I could go out with her, then Id get to sleep with her maybe. OK on the fantasy, but do you understand that, in reality, she's got a boyfriend, she's told you that, and it's time to stop pursuing her in any way?
Author one goal Posted July 5, 2009 Author Posted July 5, 2009 It may help put things into perspective to understand some of this poster's previous experiences with approaching girls: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t180099/ http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t164405/ OK on the fantasy, but do you understand that, in reality, she's got a boyfriend, she's told you that, and it's time to stop pursuing her in any way? Well its just odd she gave me her number if she has a bf. Maybe she just said that as an excuse, or maybe she thought about leaving him.
Trimmer Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 Well its just odd she gave me her number if she has a bf. Maybe she just said that as an excuse, or maybe she thought about leaving him. OK, let me break it down a little simpler... Regardless of the reality of her life behind the scenes: "I've got a boyfriend" = "Don't ask me out." If she TELLS you she's got a boyfriend, regardless of whether it's true, it means "Stop pursuing me." Do you get this? It doesn't matter "why" she might say it, or whether it's true, or "why" she would have given you her number. This is a clear, direct signal; don't miss it, or you'll fall into the same hole you've gotten into trouble with before. Do you get what I'm telling you?
dreamergrl Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 It may help put things into perspective to understand some of this poster's previous experiences with approaching girls: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t180099/ http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t164405/ So being stalkerish isn't new to OP.
Author one goal Posted July 5, 2009 Author Posted July 5, 2009 OK, let me break it down a little simpler... Regardless of the reality of her life behind the scenes: "I've got a boyfriend" = "Don't ask me out." If she TELLS you she's got a boyfriend, regardless of whether it's true, it means "Stop pursuing me." Do you get this? It doesn't matter "why" she might say it, or whether it's true, or "why" she would have given you her number. This is a clear, direct signal; don't miss it, or you'll fall into the same hole you've gotten into trouble with before. Do you get what I'm telling you? So she might not have a boyfriend, but just used it as a excuse?
Trimmer Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 So she might not have a boyfriend, but just used it as a excuse? Doesn't matter, because either way, "I've got a boyfriend" = "Don't ask me out." End of story.
Author one goal Posted July 6, 2009 Author Posted July 6, 2009 So should I mention it to her next class? About getting her text message?
Trimmer Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 So should I mention it to her next class? About getting her text message? No. Most people I would say that to acnowledge it wouldn't hurt, but for you, I'm afraid that you will mine and distort any answer she may give for any hint that you should continue to pursue her. So my recommendation, for your own protection, is: No, don't continue to initiate any communcation. If you know that she doesn't want to be asked out by you, and isn't interested in you in the way you are in her, what purpose would it serve?
dreamergrl Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 So should I mention it to her next class? About getting her text message? You can't be serious. Just leave it be. Why on earth would you continue this. No means no. No no no no no no no no.... and just in case you forget... NO.
CLC2008 Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 You should put yourself in a burlap sack and roll yourself down the street.
dreamergrl Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 You should put yourself in a burlap sack and roll yourself down the street. Can we buy tickets for this?
dreamergrl Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 It's for free Nice! We could time it, and take bets on how long till he gets to the bottom.
CLC2008 Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 Nice! We could time it, and take bets on how long till he gets to the bottom. Ooh yes. I'm thinking Lombardi street in San Francisco for starters.
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