dreamergrl Posted July 1, 2009 Posted July 1, 2009 So my big plans for this weekend where to get a group of people to go to a festival (the biggest one in my state). One of my favorite bands is playing. I've been excited about it for months. I was having problems finding people to go... Until last weekend. The group of guys that I was with, one said he'd most likely want to go. A female friend of mine also said she'd be interested in going, which is waaay cool because I haven't seen her in like a year. Plus if the other guys go... nice big fun group! So I emailed the guy last night, because I was working on getting the tickets, and had to figure out how many to get. Do you think I could at least get some sort of reply? Noooooo. Of course not. Because I'm Dreamer and even when I'm just trying to plan a friendly outing I can't get a response. I really must suck all around at communicating with the opposite sex, regardless if it's dating or friendship. I quit! :mad:
SoulSearch_CO Posted July 1, 2009 Posted July 1, 2009 Goodness. It was only "last night." I imagine just over or around 12 hours ago? Relax. He may not have gotten it, or if he has, maybe he read it quickly and had to head out to work, or something. And it's only Wednesday...I wouldn't really start panicking about the weekend until tomorrow.
Author dreamergrl Posted July 1, 2009 Author Posted July 1, 2009 Eh it said it was read. The band I want to see is Friday. I've been excited about this since May. But yeah, I know, calm down a bit.
SoulSearch_CO Posted July 1, 2009 Posted July 1, 2009 Eh it said it was read. The band I want to see is Friday. I've been excited about this since May. But yeah, I know, calm down a bit. Time to step away from the computer and go outside, Dreamer. LOL Go find something fun to do to keep your mind off of it. It's not always personal. Sometimes people just don't get it.
Author dreamergrl Posted July 1, 2009 Author Posted July 1, 2009 Time to step away from the computer and go outside, Dreamer. LOL Go find something fun to do to keep your mind off of it. It's not always personal. Sometimes people just don't get it. I need one of those voice alarms.. "Step away from the computer... Step away from the computer..." :laugh: Yeah maybe now would be a good time for those errands.
Star Gazer Posted July 1, 2009 Posted July 1, 2009 It was only last night, and so what if it was read? Calm down, woman! Also, why are you compelled to check whether these messages are read? Stop using MySpace to communicate if you have to. Use regular email, or call them.
Author dreamergrl Posted July 1, 2009 Author Posted July 1, 2009 It was only last night, and so what if it was read? Calm down, woman! Also, why are you compelled to check whether these messages are read? Stop using MySpace to communicate if you have to. Use regular email, or call them. I have no idea why I check these things. Maybe the excitement? I have regular email, but 90% of my friends just use facebook or myspace to communication.
carhill Posted July 1, 2009 Posted July 1, 2009 OP, this stuff is pretty simple. If you've tasked yourself to get tickets, simply *call* the people who've expressed interest and tell them when the deadline is for them to get their money to you. Anyone who performs gets their tickets. They can meet you at the venue to pick them up. If no one performs, buy your ticket and go alone. You've lost nothing and gained some knowledge
loveslife Posted July 1, 2009 Posted July 1, 2009 OP, this stuff is pretty simple. If you've tasked yourself to get tickets, simply *call* the people who've expressed interest and tell them when the deadline is for them to get their money to you. Anyone who performs gets their tickets. They can meet you at the venue to pick them up. If no one performs, buy your ticket and go alone. You've lost nothing and gained some knowledge Wait, Carhill, are you telling me some people still use a phone for something other than texting and photos? Good thing I was sitting down.
Shygirl15 Posted July 1, 2009 Posted July 1, 2009 If this was my thread, my title would have been "He sucks..He really does.." The last person I always seem to blame is myself.... Seriously though, how is it your fault that he did not respond back to you?
Author dreamergrl Posted July 1, 2009 Author Posted July 1, 2009 Because I swear I must send out some signal that says "Don't get back to me". Plus, don't forget ... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t193361/
Kamille Posted July 1, 2009 Posted July 1, 2009 Wait, Carhill, are you telling me some people still use a phone for something other than texting and photos? Good thing I was sitting down. Too cute. Dreamer sweetie, I agree, give these guys some time and stop checking the read function. And why not go alone to the show if it means that much to you? I've done so in the past and am all the better for knowing I can take care of my own self.
boogieboy Posted July 1, 2009 Posted July 1, 2009 Because I swear I must send out some signal that says "Don't get back to me". Plus, don't forget ... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t193361/ Do you know this guy well enough to ask him to an outing like this? The guy did say most likely ykno, I wouldve taken that as a hint to keep looking until further notice from him. Plus if he thinks you like him, and he doesnt like you, hes def not going to reply. Or he just decided he has better plans for Friday. You need better friends DG! (funny i should say that, so do i)
Author dreamergrl Posted July 1, 2009 Author Posted July 1, 2009 I hate going to stuff alone. But my female friend still probably will be coming. So maybe it can just be a girls thing instead.
boogieboy Posted July 1, 2009 Posted July 1, 2009 I was hoping that this was a sex thread..and DG was getting kinky.
boogieboy Posted July 1, 2009 Posted July 1, 2009 I hate going to stuff alone. But my female friend still probably will be coming. So maybe it can just be a girls thing instead. So maybe she has some friends she can bring. Not to put the pressure on ya, but any chance you will be approaching guys at this show, make you some prospects?
Author dreamergrl Posted July 1, 2009 Author Posted July 1, 2009 Do you know this guy well enough to ask him to an outing like this? The guy did say most likely ykno, I wouldve taken that as a hint to keep looking until further notice from him. Plus if he thinks you like him, and he doesnt like you, hes def not going to reply. Or he just decided he has better plans for Friday. You need better friends DG! (funny i should say that, so do i) Well he told me to get ahold of him the other day when I saw him. So I dunno. Yeah I need better friends, that's for sure. I just never understood what is so hard about "Yes or no" - I wont be crushed if he says no. I just figured a group thing would be fun.
Author dreamergrl Posted July 1, 2009 Author Posted July 1, 2009 So maybe she has some friends she can bring. Not to put the pressure on ya, but any chance you will be approaching guys at this show, make you some prospects? Believe it or not, I'm horrible at approaching guys. Terrible. I very rarely have done this.
carhill Posted July 1, 2009 Posted July 1, 2009 Well, when you're dancing in the aisles, oopsie's happen
loveslife Posted July 1, 2009 Posted July 1, 2009 Dreamergrl, I am quite fond of you so please take what I am about to say with the best of intentions... it has to be exhausting being you. I think I've figure out a part of your issue here. Do you realize you've shot down everything constructive people have advised here? And what's going to happen eventually? People will stop bothering. Could there be a grain of that in your RL interactions? It seems to me that negativity, depression and anxiety are big issues for you. Once you get your head on straighter it won't matter if this one or that one calls, emails, whatever. You'll be happy and doing your thing. A big thing that helped me was coming to terms with the fact that people are not always going to call, email, whatever when they say they will or when you expect them to. And it doesn't really matter in the scheme of things. Once I released that burden I was a lot happier. And the people I interact with are a lot happier, too, because they're no longer responsible for my happiness. I'm going to press "submit reply" and hold my breath waiting for you to tell me why what I've said is of no value to you....
zhsoj Posted July 1, 2009 Posted July 1, 2009 Seriously... Trust no-one Mr Moulder. I've found people to generally be super flaky. I didn't stop caring, but I always made a backup plan (or 10) and then stuck to it when someone got flaky. If you want a living thing that is reliable, get a dog. They always want to be around you.
Author dreamergrl Posted July 1, 2009 Author Posted July 1, 2009 Dreamergrl, I am quite fond of you so please take what I am about to say with the best of intentions... it has to be exhausting being you. I think I've figure out a part of your issue here. Do you realize you've shot down everything constructive people have advised here? And what's going to happen eventually? People will stop bothering. Actually, I take in everything everyone has to say to me. I choose not to go to this event alone, as I'm not comfortable going to things like this alone. I don't even go to the bar alone. And chances are I wont be alone, because my female friend will be joining me. Could there be a grain of that in your RL interactions? It seems to me that negativity, depression and anxiety are big issues for you. Once you get your head on straighter it won't matter if this one or that one calls, emails, whatever. You'll be happy and doing your thing. My anxiety is an issue for me, it always will be, it's a part of who I am. I am also hard on myself, this is something I know. These are all things I am working on as a person, and have been. If you knew me in RL you'd know I've come a long ways from who I used to be. I am quite proud of that. One of my biggest flaws is I let myself get overly exciting about things, and then I left myself get greatly disappointed when it doesn't work out. A big thing that helped me was coming to terms with the fact that people are not always going to call, email, whatever when they say they will or when you expect them to. And it doesn't really matter in the scheme of things. No people wont, and I don't expect it them too. But I think it's a show of character when someone makes possible plans, but can't give a straight answer two days before hand. Once I released that burden I was a lot happier. And the people I interact with are a lot happier, too, because they're no longer responsible for my happiness. I'm going to press "submit reply" and hold my breath waiting for you to tell me why what I've said is of no value to you.... Again, I think 90% of what's said to me is of value to me. Whether you choose to believe that or not is on you.
Author dreamergrl Posted July 4, 2009 Author Posted July 4, 2009 Well the guy friend called me today... saying "Well I haven't heard from you in a few days, so I wanted to give you a call and see what was up." My female friend never got back to me (I don't think she could get a sitter). My wisdom teeth are coming in, and it hurts like a ***** What a crappy weekend. Oh and then there was yesterday.... well I should say this morning. I went out last night with a 'friend', went drinking. I didn't break down into tears this time! It was fun. I had to crash at the 'friend's' house because I was waaaay to done in to drive. This morning the 'friend' started coming onto me. I wasn't turning it down either. I've been missing all the kissy stuff while on sabbatical. In fact it was getting kind of hot and heavy, but I didn't have sex with him or give him a blow job or anything. Next thing I know, I got my period. All over the mattress. A week too early, which explains the crying crap last weekend. I was rather embarressed. Extremely embarressed. "Don't worry about it, things happen", I was told. He then told me he'd still like to go to Summer Fest with me. There was talk of going last night.. So he says "I'll call you at four when I get done with work". So I come home and check my emails, facebook, and myspace. I had him as a myspace friend. However he deleted me.
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