thisisthat Posted July 1, 2009 Posted July 1, 2009 After not dating for a long time, I decided to give it a go. Joined an online service I was comfortable with and received a really nice email from a woman on the site. After emailing each other back and forth, I asked for her phone number and asked her specifically in the email if a certain day would be good to go out. She said yes. I call her a day later and she didn't call back. A day later, she texts me to ask if I want to meet up that night (two days before the arranged day.) I said it would be fine if she didn't mind meeting after a certain time since I already had plans. She said it would be fine and she would call me. 15 minutes before she said she would call, she texts to tell me she is out with friends and if it's OK, she'll give me a call later that night. I text her that would be fine. She doesn't call. I decide to give it one more shot, and give her a call the next day. We finally talk to each other on the phone, have a very nice conversation, and agree to meet at this past Thursday. We meet up for drinks and have a really great time. She impressed me quite a bit and I thought she was great. But, the entire night I couldn't get a read on her at all. At no point was she distant or closed-off, we had a great conversation, and we both remarked to each other that we couldn't believe how much time had passed. At the same time, she really didn't do any sort of cue to say she was interested in me per se. When we decided to go, she left very quickly which I took as a sign of "oh well, it was nice but I'm not interested." As soon as we got outside, she gave me a big hug and said, "I had a really great time. I'd love to see you again. Please give me a call." The next day, I sent her a quick text telling her how much I enjoyed last night and I would talk to her soon. No text reply. I knew she was away this past weekend, so I gave her a call today. No phone call reply. My gut is telling me that she was trying to be nice but isn't interested in me. What I don't understand is why she would go out of her way to tell me to call her if she wasn't interested. Is my gut instinct correct or am I just reading this all wrong? Is she just trying to be nice or is it a case of her having the jitters? Thanks everyone for your take!
D-Lish Posted July 1, 2009 Posted July 1, 2009 I'd say that not returning your text or call is indicative of non-interest. It takes a short moment to send a text... When I am interested, I will return a text within a few hours- 24 hours at the most. I assume from your description of your date that she truly did enjoy your company, it just sounds as if that is as far as it went. She could have been trying to avoid a potentially awkward moment by asking you to give her a call. Regardless, this girl sounds like a write off.
Confusedalways Posted July 1, 2009 Posted July 1, 2009 Yes, it sounds like she had fun but not romantically. I certainly would not ignore a text of someone I was romantically interested in.
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