dt311unity Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 My fiance and girlfriend of 5 yrs. broke up 2 1/2 months ago, she ended it. We own a house together. I moved out and got my own place and we are trying to sell the house now. She was looking for a roommate to live with her and help her with the house and such. One of my friends I knew from high school decided to move in and stay there out of convience since he is going to school close by. I move out at the begining of June and he moved in right after. Up until I moved out the ex and I had been still sleeping in the same bed together and basically acting as if we were still together. A few weeks ago I was talking with her and she sounded like her and her roomate (my friend) had been spending a lot of time together. I asked if they were dating now, she said no but she does like him. I knew there was more to that. We had sent some texts back and forth after that and then this morning I get an email. She tells me in the email that her and my friend are now more than just friends. She didn't intend on that happening but they had been spending a lot of time together and both ended up getting feelings for one another. Obviously, this really drew the last straw with me. We ended up chatting on facebook this morning and I explained to her how disgusted I was with her. How I felt disrespected that she would do that to me, yet alone with one of my friends and in the house I still own. It was basically another kick when I am already down. She didn't think it was fair that I was saying those things. I told her I have lost all respect and trust in her now. She asked if I was disappointed in her, I said yes. The fact we were together for 5 yrs and it's been a month since I have been gone and she is already jumping into another relationship. That surprised me but at the same time didn't. She has always been in a relationship and has never really been single before. I told her it's bad enough dealing with the break up, now she is with someone from my friend group and it will be even harder to move on. I guess I am just at a loss for words. I was doing pretty good lately with the break up and moving on. Now it's like everything just came back at once. I mean, am I being out of line with the whole respect thing. I just don't see how she can think I am being unreasonable about the whole situation. No good...
NopeNah Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 Your not out of line at all(in my opinion). As soon as I saw "your friend was moving in" i knew where this stroy was going. Been there done that! He's nothing more than a rebound and she's nothing more than an easy piece of ass to him. Sell the house and let them be! Trashy,trashy,trashy! Sucks for sure man but, atleast you're not married with kids. Goodluck! and sleep with as many of her friends as you can!j/k.....NO, REALLY DO IT!
TroyNJ Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 **** bro, she is a complete POS for doing that, I know it hurts but if she could disrespect you like that she isn't worth a pimple on your ass. Keep your head up and stay strong, try not to act on impulse.
skreen23 Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 That friend that moved in isn't really a friend and your ex is the reincarnation of Hitler. It doesn't feel like it now but you had a lucky escape there.
Author dt311unity Posted July 9, 2009 Author Posted July 9, 2009 Well, it didn't take long. I met the ex yesterday at the vet because our dog we had together (I let her keep after breakup) is very sick and we are going to be putting him to sleep this weekend . It has been about 5 1/2 weeks since I have seen her. She ended up telling me that everything hit her the day before. She feels like she messed up big time and misses me very much and the life we had together. She was pretty upset about everything and didn't know what to do to get out of the mess she created at the house now (see first post I wrote). Also, she was upset because she feels like she ruined any chance of getting back together. I didn't really know what to say about everything. I felt bad for her and the situation she has gotten herself in. I told her that I have been that way for the last two months and have only started to feel better in the last two weeks. I don't know, it was interesting. I am trying to not let myself fall into anything with her again though. I can't let myself go down that road again.
2sure Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 Yes, she is upset now that she understands that to you, in your eyes..you no longer feel for her the way you did. She is upset because she is no longer in charge of driving this crazy train. You have taken away yourself as an option. She didnt want you. But she wanted you to want her. You better step back. Way back and think about this one.
Surfer Dude Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 Don't believe her words. She's manipulating your emotions. She's adept at this. Even if you decide to take her back, it'll be a terrible precedent for your relationship and she'll know you are weak and incongruent, and that she can get away with anything. Some women will do whatever you allow them to do. But it's more likely that she just wants to see if you're still pining over her magic pussy... Do what I did after being disrespected: - change your email address, phone number, block her on Facebook and ignore the hell out of her till the rest of your natural life. With these disrespectful chicks, there's no forgiveness and there's no getting back together. What's done is done.
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