whitecat Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 Hi, some may have read the thread where I explained my situation. (5 years together, I broke it off, begged back, he dates, tells me he loves me and single, I caught his lie and got angry sent a message to the GF, he explodes tells me he is going to make my life hell) Now it has been 9 days with NC, everything is great considering he told me he was going to get revenge, get me fired, etc. Last week he went to my house to pick up something his mom left, and yesterday sent me a Facebook invitation to be friends (I put ignore) with the message: please take my computers to my house (which I did, no conversation just took them and left immediatly) Today I get a new Facebook invitation with the message: We need to talk call me, take care. (He actually changed his # when the fight happened, and now he is giving it to me) Can anyone recommend me something? I am love and heartbroken blind, I just don't wan't to do anything this time without thinking everything 10 times. Thanks
northstar1 Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 Hi, some may have read the thread where I explained my situation. (5 years together, I broke it off, begged back, he dates, tells me he loves me and single, I caught his lie and got angry sent a message to the GF, he explodes tells me he is going to make my life hell) Now it has been 9 days with NC, everything is great considering he told me he was going to get revenge, get me fired, etc. Last week he went to my house to pick up something his mom left, and yesterday sent me a Facebook invitation to be friends (I put ignore) with the message: please take my computers to my house (which I did, no conversation just took them and left immediatly) Today I get a new Facebook invitation with the message: We need to talk call me, take care. (He actually changed his # when the fight happened, and now he is giving it to me) Can anyone recommend me something? I am love and heartbroken blind, I just don't wan't to do anything this time without thinking everything 10 times. Thanks yes, this is a toxic relationship, block and ignore him.
NopeNah Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 If you do talk, don't expect it to be positive. Not saying it won't be but, be prepared. I'd also act indiferent in the conversation(no begging,spilling for heart,ect..) I'd wait a few days before calling myself. That was also pretty messed up to contact his girl.
asuman Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 Hi, some may have read the thread where I explained my situation. (5 years together, I broke it off, begged back, he dates, tells me he loves me and single, I caught his lie and got angry sent a message to the GF, he explodes tells me he is going to make my life hell) Now it has been 9 days with NC, everything is great considering he told me he was going to get revenge, get me fired, etc. Last week he went to my house to pick up something his mom left, and yesterday sent me a Facebook invitation to be friends (I put ignore) with the message: please take my computers to my house (which I did, no conversation just took them and left immediatly) Today I get a new Facebook invitation with the message: We need to talk call me, take care. (He actually changed his # when the fight happened, and now he is giving it to me) Can anyone recommend me something? I am love and heartbroken blind, I just don't wan't to do anything this time without thinking everything 10 times. Thanks His threats of revenge are psychotic. They're red flags to you that he is imbalanced and should not have any contact with you for any reason. He's poison and I think you already know that. In short: ignore him.
NopeNah Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 and to asumans response..."maybe" that's why he wants you to see his facebook(pics of them together,comments to and from,ect..) again.."MAYBE"
ryanrabl Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 dont even think of accepting his invitation...its a trap..
Thomas X Forever Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 Ah, I love when people are being real. I hate it when people think break ups can be done maturely and painlessly. THIS is the real world, this topic.
Author whitecat Posted July 1, 2009 Author Posted July 1, 2009 Thanks for the words everyone, I decided yesterday to not answer or anything. However I got a call on my work phone and it was him asking me why I hadn't answered the Facebook message. He basically said he missed me, that obviosly we couldn't be something more (which surprisingly didn't hurt me) that he wanted the friendship of before to take things slowly and just be friends. He said he didn't work it out with his gf, and was ok with that. I told him he probably just didn't want to loose me, and that I was doing great with new friends and life. That I couldn't be the friend he wants right now, cause I didn't want to hurt him nor myself. He told me to think about it as he didn't see his life, and plans without me. I too miss him, and want him in my life, however I think its too quick for a friendship. I know now I don't love him but I can't see him with someone just yet. Any recommendations??? Thanks all.
Author whitecat Posted July 1, 2009 Author Posted July 1, 2009 Thomas, I understand the fighting for the person idea, however I did it in such way like My Best Friends Weeding, only to add on guilt and more anger. So is NC the best? Yes, and I say it after clawing for the person I dug a hole for myself and pushed him even further. I didn't find the strength for NC, however after the first days it gets easier and you feel sooooooo much better. If they trully love you, they will come back.
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