masaki1085 Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 I went on two lunch dates with another teacher in a school district I work in. She works in a different building than I do, but the date was set up through another teacher that works between my building and hers. She was a really nice girl, but from my two dates with her I really felt that we were not compatible as a potential couple--I found from getting to know her a bit that I felt her values and mine were not that compatible. I also didn't really feel "the spark." I'm not sure what she felt on her end, but we really never committed to anything more beyond the two lunch dates. I ended up asking her if we could just remain just friends--I think she was disappointed. She didn't do anything wrong or anything--again, she was a very, very nice girl; well intentioned; responsible, etc. I just didn't feel the spark. This may sound stupid, but did I do the right thing? I feel bad that I didn't give it more of a chance, but I felt that dragging it on wasn't the right thing to do either (since I felt it wasn't going anywhere). I usually don't have much experience with breaking things off with people I'm dating--usually it's the other way around. :\ I get the impression that I may be answering my own question in my writing this. I appreciate any words of wisdom. Thank you for reading.
Beeotch Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 I went on two lunch dates with another teacher in a school district I work in. She works in a different building than I do, but the date was set up through another teacher that works between my building and hers. She was a really nice girl, but from my two dates with her I really felt that we were not compatible as a potential couple--I found from getting to know her a bit that I felt her values and mine were not that compatible. I also didn't really feel "the spark." I'm not sure what she felt on her end, but we really never committed to anything more beyond the two lunch dates. I ended up asking her if we could just remain just friends--I think she was disappointed. She didn't do anything wrong or anything--again, she was a very, very nice girl; well intentioned; responsible, etc. I just didn't feel the spark. This may sound stupid, but did I do the right thing? I feel bad that I didn't give it more of a chance, but I felt that dragging it on wasn't the right thing to do either (since I felt it wasn't going anywhere). I usually don't have much experience with breaking things off with people I'm dating--usually it's the other way around. :\ I get the impression that I may be answering my own question in my writing this. I appreciate any words of wisdom. Thank you for reading. Its hard to let someone down who is essentially a nice person...but you have to be true to yourself...might as well let her down now than string her along if you're not feeling it. She will survive. As long as you didn't do it in a mean way..any reasonable adult can realize that things don't always work out. You did the right thing.
NopeNah Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 You sound like a standup guy! Kudos for not dragging it out. She'll respect you for what you did.
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