bella16 Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 This is my first thread so bare with me please. Well this has nothing to do with my current relationship. I've been with a guy now for 4 months and we are in the middle of a rough patch, but are talking it out. I am in love with this man and I know he's the one I wanna be with. I'm 23 and he's 30. Let me just tell you a little bit about my previous relationship with my ex boyfriend. We were together for 4 years. I was madly in love with him. I thought I was going to marry this guy. We are the same age. Well, he was just very immature... I was his first love, relationship, and the first girl he did anything sexually with. So I knew it was gonna be some work with him because he was never in a relationship before. He just never changed. He always did what his friends did...he was never a leader, always a follower. He never treated me good and I still stayed with him bc we can't help who we love sometimes. We have not been together in well over a year now. I have not seen him in a long time. We are from the same town though and I never run into him...not until this weekend. Well since me and my current bf are on a lil break right now, I've been going out on the weekends with friends...just enjoying life and doing what I gotta do so that I'm not upset over what we're going through right now. My friend and I go out to a local bar in our town on friday night, and as soon as we are walking up from the parking lot I hear "his voice". It was my ex, his brother, and his friends. I said hi to them all, including him. I was talking to his brother, and my ex just walks away so fast like he didn't want to be near me. So I wasn't bothered with it whatever. About 30mins later I'm told that he left. Okay, I dont care. I don't have feelings for him anymore. Towards the end of the night, a guy friend of mine shows up... he has really liked me for years now but im just not interested, and he's always tried to kiss me, even when I was with the ex he has tried... and my ex bf knew that...and he lost all respect for him and despises him for it. Well my guy friend (thats all we are, I do not like him) were talking while his friend and my friend that I came with were in the parking lot talking. I told him I was ready to go home, and lets walk out to the parking lot to see if they are done talking yet. Well as me and my guy friend are walking out, my ex had come back and sees us walking out together. It may have looked like something, but it was not at all what it looked like. I see my ex stop at the frontdoor to the bar, and just looked at us. He walks over to us and just loses it, and grabs my guy friend by the neck and walks him about 30 feet in the parking lot and he is just screaming at him and telling him hes gonna kick his a** and hes gonna kill him. I was in shock. He ended up biting his ear bc he was so close to him while he was screaming at him, and my friends ear was bleeding. I couldn't believe he did that. I know he hates this kid, and I guess him seeing us walking out together set something off, but its been so long since we've been together... I do not know what that meant! I felt so bad for my friend. I apologized for my ex's actions. I heard my ex say "stay away from her!" when I tried to get him off of him. My ex is 6'5" and is a football player...so hes huge! My guy friend is not at all near him in size.. I felt so bad! What does this mean? Is my ex still not over me? I have no clue. He had his chance with me and he didnt know how to treat me. Now hes acting like this when I see him out somewhere on the weekends! What do you think?
NiceGuy4Ever Posted July 1, 2009 Posted July 1, 2009 He has obviously not gotten over you and it's (though it sounds mean) pretty pathetic. He's held onto you for over a year and he still hasn't moved on. The thing is he is in way over his head. He can't interefere in your life anymore, he's the past and he doesn't seem to understand that from his clearly blatant reaction. I am personally proud you've gotten over this guy and am kinda disappointed with your ex. Even more he reacted violently which is not a good sign. He probably hasn't let his pain out. Well anyways that's what I think.
asuman Posted July 2, 2009 Posted July 2, 2009 Your ex is a pathetic and mentally imbalanced freakshow. No, he's not over you. And he has no self-control. Stay away from him.
Author bella16 Posted July 2, 2009 Author Posted July 2, 2009 Thank you NiceGuyForever! Yes, I had to let him go over a year ago, after 4 longgg years of being treated like complete crap. It was hard but I had to do it for myself...I could not go on the way we were any longer. It was one of those relationships where I was just scared to let go, and made so many excuses for him. Then one day the lightbulb in my head clicked on and I got over him and moved on with my life. I guess it is kind of clear that he still to this day, has yet to let go. I was his first love but its been way too long. I just hope it never happens again when I see him out on the weekends.
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