brock9911 Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 so no contact was broken when there was a going away party for a friend. i knew she was gonna be there but i figured we can make it civil. ha not so, she downed a bottle of wine before i even showed up, than preceded to cry and spill her guts to EVERYONE. now everyone is looking at me saying go over and talk to her, she really loves you and wants to make things work. she cheated on me, than broke up with me cuz she said i cheated, which i didnt. does no one see this picture here. i finally go and talk to her. not such a good idea. she goes and tries to turn this around on me, saying i neglected her and didnt show her enough affection. and starts bashing this other girl i started to hang out with. neglect came after being cheated on, maybe things should have ended sooner, but i wanted things to work. a little later on im sitting in a group of friends bull$h*tting when she just comes up to me and starts to kiss me. i push her away and said listen we're done, im not doing this, its just gonna make things more complicated. she than gets histerical and leaves. ok, now yesterday i get a barrage of texts saying i need to tell her if theres a chance that we will get together. that she knows i still love her and that this cant be the end. but i need to let her know cuz shes dying inside and she just needs to know. i didnt respond and than i got angrier messages saying what the f. no response, i need to know. am i wrong for continuting N.C. or am i being an ass hole. breaking N.C. was a MISTAKE. dont do it
adamt Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 Go back to NC. Next time avoid going to any place she will be at. Sounds like she is trying to manipulate people to make it look like your fault and everyone turns on you. Do you really want to spend your life with someone like this?if she cheated once there is a good chance she will do it again. Do you really want to be around for that and go thrpugh all this emotion again?
wow123 Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 What are you gonna do man? I know how hard it is to tell someone you're done with them even though you're in love with them. She cheated but it's still hard. Are you considering working things out?
Author brock9911 Posted June 30, 2009 Author Posted June 30, 2009 at the moment im not considering anything. i have so much anger built up from this whole situation, my mind is all messed up. i told her the trust is gone. she cant trust me because of what she did and the same goes for me. i cant trust her. her own guilt will be her down fall. we were trying to work things out when she broke up with me. this has had a negative snow ball effect on her. she thought i was gonna come running back.
adamt Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 if your mind is all messed up then the only way to go is NC. Then after a month or so you mind clears and you can see what is really going on. then make a final decision
wow123 Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 I can tell you what has happened to me in the past. I forgave two girls that cheated on me and tried to work things out. I forgave them for what they did but never forgot which changed the whole relationship. I always wondered where they were and what they were up to when I wasn't with them which caused them to turn around and dump me.
Author brock9911 Posted June 30, 2009 Author Posted June 30, 2009 yeah the sad part is you will never know what there doing behind your back. once the trust is gone theres really no way to fix it. it sucks and i do miss her and still love her, but it will never be the same as it was. she cheated on me last year, and trying to make things work was tough. fighting and drinking became the norm. it wasnt healthy.
Road To Joy Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 yeah the sad part is you will never know what there doing behind your back. once the trust is gone theres really no way to fix it. it sucks and i do miss her and still love her, but it will never be the same as it was. she cheated on me last year, and trying to make things work was tough. fighting and drinking became the norm. it wasnt healthy. This is rational thinking at it's best! once the trust is gone theres really no way to fix it. Amen to this. It sucks when the relationship has to end due to THEIR stupid mistake.
NopeNah Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 When you get rid of a cheater or they get rid of you, it comes down to one thing: FREEDOM FROM FEAR.. There's no more "fear" of where they are, who they're with, ect.. Those nights when they're 15-20minutes late from work or being out with the "girls", fear just eats you alive! There really is(for me) no going back after that line's been crossed. Don't get me wrong. With my ex-wife from 9 years ago, I tried it. Same sh*t happened. Once they cross that line and you "forgive", they seem to think there is no one to answer to for their actions. No matter what/who they do, you'll be there... Set their trashy asses by the curb for pick up!
Author brock9911 Posted July 1, 2009 Author Posted July 1, 2009 this whole website really helps spread some light on how f*cked up relationships can be. to keep yourself occupied and your mind off the individual is hard but knowing other people r in the same boat helps. but on a different note, the break up or even new relationships always sparked my artistic self. so much so, i went and got a tattoo. a little expensive, but damn im happy about it and it looks good. the feeling of splurging makes me happy and thats what i did, so tonight for my brief but very excited and confident self....ex and all the other heart breakers go f*ck your self
NopeNah Posted July 1, 2009 Posted July 1, 2009 I got the new tat and a brand new closet! I had no choice for the clothes..but, I've saved SO much $$$ by not being with her, it's crazy!!
aboynamedmike Posted July 1, 2009 Posted July 1, 2009 Wow man, this story is really similar to mine.. my gf cheated on me and wanted me back and i eventually wound up taking her back because we had such good times before. BIG MISTAKE. I was doing exactly what the guy mentioned about me. I was living in constant fear of where she was, who she was with, if she was still talking to the guy she cheated on me with (she was). Anyways, I broke up with her a week ago and have been up and down about my decision. Then last night I realized, Why am i doing this to myself? This situation clearly shows that things have not, are not going to work out between us, I need to stop blaming myself for her feeling sad, I need to get on with my life (I'm 20). I found that when a girl cheats on you and they say they want you back, at least in my case, she was afraid of being alone and made to look like a slut. But in your case, stick with no contact. You're better than any cheater and deserve a nice girl who won't f*ck around with your feelings..
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