iwanttolive Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 I hate myself for being so stupid. Two years ago I broke up with someone whom I loved very much. Three months later, a guy who was much older than me, told me that he liked me. I was depressed and my mind was still messed up from the break-up. In my vulnerability, I agreed to be his gf although I did not like him. There was no slight desire to sleep with him. Shortly after, he told me "You know, just to let you know, I would not marry anyone that I haven't slept with." Afraid that I would be dumped again, I foolishly obliged. He screwed me every day for a month and then he dumped me. I feel so dirty and violated being used by a bald and ugly old man.. I'm still feeling a heart-wrenching pain whenever I think about it...
addy Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 everyone in life makes mistakes...you were just lookin for love (us women tend to live for that stuff aye) we need to stop with the rebounds and just learn to cope with heartache, after time the heart heals itself. life is short go out have fun talk to your friends and start erasing the people that have ever hurt you out your life...now all i need to do is listen to my own advice.
MrFun Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 - I broke up with someone whom I loved very much. - In my vulnerability, I agreed to be his gf although I did not like him. - There was no slight desire to sleep with him. - Afraid that I would be dumped again, I foolishly obliged. ???? Could it be that he left you because of those reasons. Did you come here to hear how we feel so sorry for you or do you expect us to take the pain away magically somehow? I don't even know where to start with this thread.
loveslife Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 Maybe he could tell how respulsed you were by him and wanted someone who desired him more? I find it hard to believe he couldn't sense your lack of desire and disdain. I find the saddest thing about this story the fact that you broke up with someone you loved and were still in shock by it two years later. Did you seek therapy for this? We're all responsible for our own happiness. I think there are underlying issues here that you should look at. Why did you break up with the original guy? How long were you together that you were still heartbroken two years later? Why did you seek relief with a short, bald guy you weren't attracted to?
dreamergrl Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 You need to take responsibility for your emotions and actions. No one made you date the guy who repulsed you. I'm just he dumped you because he could tell you weren't with him because you liked him. We all make mistakes, but I hope you learned not to be with someone for the sake of being with another person. They have feelings too.
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