smalls552 Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 so this guy and i have been kind of seeing each other for the past month and a half. the thing is, three weeks into it i moved out of state for an internship for the summer. so we never became official, but we talk about three or four times a week. this past weekend i went home and we had planned to get together. he said he wanted to see me "real bad" and said we'd definitely do something. we picked saturday as our day. friday night my flight gets in, i text him to let him know and asked what we were going to do on sat. he said he didn't know so i suggested that i'll call him the next day and we'd figure it out. saturday rolls around and i call him in the afternoon and he didn't pick up, so i left him a message to call me back. nothing! i didn't hear anything back from him! i can't believe he stood me up like that! having gone through this type of song and dance before, i decided pretty much the next day that it was over and figured if he wants to talk to me, he'll talk to me, but i'm not wasting my breath asking why he ditched me. is this the smart move to do? i'm still perplexed because of all the things he said before, it sounded like he wanted to continue the relationship... why do people stand other people up? it's so rude and inconsiderate... UGH!
ai75 Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 Very VERY smart. Yeah, that's really lame on his part, but don't take it personally. Whatever you do, DO NOT CHASE HIM. Think about it, either he did or didn't get your voicemail. If he did, well he's not interested anymore and not quality enough to say it. If he didn't, he'll wonder why you never called and maybe he'll call you back and say "what happened to you on Saturday" (unless he's taking the same advice here, haha). If you don't hear from him for a while and are wondering whether or not he is still alive, just shoot him a txt and say "are you alive?" He'll probably respond with 1) "yea, are you? you were supposed to call me" and then you can explain that you did and thought he was blowing you off, or 2) he'll have some excuse for not calling you back. If #1 is the case and you're still interested then its like nothing ever happened. If #2 is the case then just reply with "was planning your funeral speech, haha, glad you're okay"... leave it at that and he can chase you back if he wants you. Why do people do this? I have no idea, wish I did. How about a question for you, why do some girls give you their number and either never answer or call back or flake on a date. Why the hell would you give your number in the first place? UGH!
SoulSearch_CO Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 In this digital day and age, the possibility that the guy just didn't get the voicemail is a line of bull. I don't know why people do this. I think it's incredibly rude. I'd be done with it. I mean, seriously. You guys are still in kind of a casual stage, so it's really no loss, IMO. There are plenty of other people out there.
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