lovebound Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 i sent a message to one of my guy friends in facebook asking him out. Well, i put it as asking him if he would like to hang out some day, go see a movie and have a drink or something, get to talk and know each other a bit more. He had shown some interest in the past by asking me to come to his parties and paying a lot of attention at one time, but now, i sent him the text last nite, but he did not respond today at all. I know that he was in facebook because he changed his facebook photo and posted a funny remark in the threads, but he did not respond to me. I was clear to him in the text that if he was not interested, that he can say no and that it is ok, no big deal. and that to let me know either way please. Well, my question is: can a guy be that rude and dont respond back even if he is not interested? why dont a guy be honest and just say something, even if it is an excuse like "i would like to but i am starting to see someone else". I am frankly tired that everyone tells me how beautiful and great I am as a person, and I cant get a guy to ask me out or be honest. Do you think that he is not interested and this is the way to let me know but cant be honest?
motive2002 Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 Do you think that he is not interested and this is the way to let me know but cant be honest? Probably. You might want to let this one go for a while. I've had exchanges take a while with Facebook. He might still reply back, but honestly if he was really interested he would have perhaps messaged back sooner. Just hang loose and see what happens.
Maxis Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 it's possible he just didnt notice the message...i sometimes miss facebook messages and they just end up sitting in my inbox for weeks...if he doesnt respond soon, i'd say just take it as a no, rather than worry about it.
loveslife Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 She sent him a text message, not a facebook message. She was just commenting that she saw that he was around because he had activity on facebook. Lovebound, if someone sent me a text saying that they wanted to hang out with me but if I didn't want to it was okay I wouldn't know what to respond either. It's kind of a depressing message. You're showing a great lack of self-confidence. I think if you work on yourself and feeling better about yourself that you will attract men and have them pursue you, too.
motive2002 Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 Sorry, somehow I confused the text message with Facebook Same thing applies. If he hasn't answered back, he's either not interested, nervous about what to respond with, or it just simply got lost in a sea of other texts. I'm sure he got it though. Just wait it out some. See what happens. Meanwhile since you are "beautiful and great" keep your options open
Author lovebound Posted June 30, 2009 Author Posted June 30, 2009 actually, the message i sent was thru facebook. i called it a text message, but i meant it to say that it was a message thru facebook. Also, the reason i said that if he was not interested to let me know was really to state that it was ok and that he could be honest, no harm done. It was not becuase i have lack of self confidence, but because i wanted to be honest and open the door for him to not feel weird about saying no. But yes, i have gone thru a past bad relationship and a relationship that affected very much and i am frustrated that since then, i have not been lucky in love, but i was not intending for it to be a depressing message. Actually also said that i thought that it would be fun to do something.
motive2002 Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 I don't know why people can't be honest.. or simply be courteous enough to reply back to a message, especially if it's one asking to go out and do something... but it happens all the time. All I can say is don't sweat it. Facebook messages can take a while for responses... and if the case is he isn't interested, well it's his loss. You've got better things to do than sit around wondering why he didn't write you back!
Sevenscars Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 I will give my honest opinion in hopes it helps you somehow. If a girl messaged me and I was not interested, there is a good chance I would ignore it. Simply to keep the drama to a minimum. If I knew this girl well enough that maybe it was not so much of a random message (I had dated her before or shown strong signs of interest), and I was still not interested, I would reply saying I am not able to. If I was interested in the girl, I would wait a few days to clear my thoughts about the situation and act from my best interest. There are of course men who may respond right away, that is up to whoever it is.
icepop Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 when you run short on inspiration ...wait a little while and as soon as you no longer try..it will be staring you right in the eyes...everything will come to you..
loveslife Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 A few weeks ago I was at a reunion. Ended up talking a lot with this guy I went to school with. We got along great. He's married and we're very different types anyway but I found myself wanting to keep in touch. We're already friends on facebook so I sent him a message saying lets meet for a drink sometime. Never heard back from him. Maybe he thought I was coming on to him or maybe he just wasn't interested in keeping in touch. Don't know. Really don't care. It just happens. I see it happen a lot. I've done it, too, and there's not always a real reason. I know you're just confused and I'm sorry for that. I think in the electronics age people forget about how to interact. This guy from my reunion could have very easily just written back - yeah, sounds good. I'm busy now but will be in touch when I have time. Or anything. He should have responded. But people don't do common courtesy as much anymore.
SoulSearch_CO Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 There's no telling. But don't stress about it so soon. It's only been 1 day.
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