aboynamedmike Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 Hey everyone, I've recently broken up with my gf of 2 years and it's been extra hard because she was my first real girlfriend, first love, first sexual partner... But i've been up and down, naturally, and I usually never go to my parent's for relationship advice or anything, but this time I just had to. And what happened was amazing. I probably had the most intimate conversation with my dad, about life, about my mom(they're seperated, not yet divorced), about our family, and it was a pretty bonding moment. My mom told me that she went thru the same problems when my dad moved out. She was up and down and eventually, as she put it, "i feel nothing!" In the sense, that she's pretty neutral about the whole situation, which is good. But if you haven't considered it, talk to your parents. They know a lot and can help you. When a parent tells you how much they love you and that they have faith in you and know that you'll meet someone better down the road..it did wonders for me, and maybe it will for you.
asuman Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 Dunno how old you are. I'm in my 30s. By the time most people reach their 20s, they begin to discover that they have a lot more in common with their parents than they thought. They can also relate to them as fellow adults, for the first time, so it can really be an enlightening experience. I lost my dad 4 years ago, so I always counsel people to cherish their relationships with their parents as they grow older. And how interesting for you that out of the pain of your break-up you've made this discovery that opened up a new window in your life.
Author aboynamedmike Posted June 30, 2009 Author Posted June 30, 2009 Yea, i'm 20..will be 21 in jan (yay!)...but i feel more connected to my parents, and like we can have adult-adult conversations. It is very rewarding indeed.
The Blue Pill Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 My parents have always supported me and know exactly how I feel and what I'm going through most of the time. After all, they've been around the block. It is surprising what knowledge you can extract from people older than you. Parents love their children and as long as you're not too uncomfortable sharing your life/feelings with them, then they are beneficial assets to have. Blood is thicker than water, 99% of the time they will be on your side automatically.
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