LostInLimbo Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 I been gone for a bit, and wow it has changed, I myself use the board as guidance and ideas, not neccesarily to do as I am told... Well here goes, I have been away for a bit, my last post pretty much said my Ex and I were going to councilling, that lasted 1 session, next one was due in a week. A day before coucilling was awesome, that day of and 7 days later still awesome, wtf happened is beyond me, because day 10, I was ignored in my text messages, till I finally called as she had asked, she was short on the phone, asked her to go out, she said no, I don't get this, the night prior she asked me to sleep over (I didn't) felt weird at her parents, but couple days that lead up to it felt weird. As mentioned things were awesome for that week, until Saturday night hit, I left come Sunday Morning no Return Messages, called, she had to get of the phone she was babysitting, I just finally laid it on the line and text her if you don't want this, tell me, if it makes it easier for you, tell me VIA Text, she replied VIA text, OK Were Done, I don't know WTF Happened, up until that point she was talking moving back in,,making plans with the kids and I...just sounded normal again, until that Txt message and followed by another Txt that said, I don't want to be with anyone, in which I replied, it had been nice you told me earlier, she said I thought it would work out.. I AM LOST, but yet know to stay away all together... I don't get it, my last text to her was I won't text you, as I see it confuses you more and seemed to push you away... but no reply...guess Guess I am Back.... LiL
Beeotch Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 I been gone for a bit, and wow it has changed, I myself use the board as guidance and ideas, not neccesarily to do as I am told... Well here goes, I have been away for a bit, my last post pretty much said my Ex and I were going to councilling, that lasted 1 session, next one was due in a week. A day before coucilling was awesome, that day of and 7 days later still awesome, wtf happened is beyond me, because day 10, I was ignored in my text messages, till I finally called as she had asked, she was short on the phone, asked her to go out, she said no, I don't get this, the night prior she asked me to sleep over (I didn't) felt weird at her parents, but couple days that lead up to it felt weird. As mentioned things were awesome for that week, until Saturday night hit, I left come Sunday Morning no Return Messages, called, she had to get of the phone she was babysitting, I just finally laid it on the line and text her if you don't want this, tell me, if it makes it easier for you, tell me VIA Text, she replied VIA text, OK Were Done, I don't know WTF Happened, up until that point she was talking moving back in,,making plans with the kids and I...just sounded normal again, until that Txt message and followed by another Txt that said, I don't want to be with anyone, in which I replied, it had been nice you told me earlier, she said I thought it would work out.. I AM LOST, but yet know to stay away all together... I don't get it, my last text to her was I won't text you, as I see it confuses you more and seemed to push you away... but no reply...guess Guess I am Back.... LiL Sorry about that. How long were u broken up before u decided to get back together? I personally believe that with second chances...one has to tread lightly as there is already a history, it is more fragile and you are actually at a disadvantage versus advantage because you already know them, there might be distrust, past unresolved issues etc. I think people should take second chances slowlllllllly. Examining the reasons WHY the past relationship didn't work, what is different now, has anything changed, are you just lonely etc. If my ex pops back up for reconciliation...I would need to do all that searching before even CONSIDERING it and then after wards we we will be friends first for a few months so I can even get a greater sense of if we are ready to get back together before the romance comes into play. If this person trullly wants me back then they will be willing to form that friendship for that time. I am already once bitten so twice as shy...so I would not jump to get back with him. I would have to MAKE SURE (as much as I could...bc nothing is guaranteed) that we can really have a relationship....and if I don't think so, I am not going to even bother.
Author LostInLimbo Posted June 29, 2009 Author Posted June 29, 2009 Sorry about that. How long were u broken up before u decided to get back together? I personally believe that with second chances...one has to tread lightly as there is already a history, it is more fragile and you are actually at a disadvantage versus advantage because you already know them, there might be distrust, past unresolved issues etc. I think people should take second chances slowlllllllly. Examining the reasons WHY the past relationship didn't work, what is different now, has anything changed, are you just lonely etc. If my ex pops back up for reconciliation...I would need to do all that searching before even CONSIDERING it and then after wards we we will be friends first for a few months so I can even get a greater sense of if we are ready to get back together before the romance comes into play. If this person trullly wants me back then they will be willing to form that friendship for that time. I am already once bitten so twice as shy...so I would not jump to get back with him. I would have to MAKE SURE (as much as I could...bc nothing is guaranteed) that we can really have a relationship....and if I don't think so, I am not going to even bother. Thanks B PPL reading my past posts, would most likely say this was my fault, in which it was a bit, she had left twice prior to this time leaving, so 3 times, twice for another guy (same guy) this time not sure, but don't feel it was for the same guy...or anyone else for that matter. I should have quit while I was ahead, but I guess love is truely blind and hurtfull, especially when she has kids we see every 2nd weekend, whom I bonded with..
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