ForLove Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 Hello everyone I've been seeing someone for almost 3 months now, we live 93 miles apart, that's a 2 hour train ride and we don't really see each other on a regular set date or basis, we see each other 1-3 times a month. Right now I'm in a part of my life where I do need everything to have a set date and time and not just when he feels like it or when he has the time. The distance is what upsets me the most, every single time I've been at his house and I'm about to go back home I just feel so incredibly bad not knowing when I'll see him again. I wouldn't mind if I saw him every week for only a few minutes but at least I'd see him on a regular basis. Right now it's more like.."I've got time next week, you can come then." I know I should be glad that I get to see him because some people don't get to see the person they love at all but not seeing him at all might've been easier than seeing him when he has time. So last night, I started thinking and wondering about my options and it basically came down to either sticking with this or ending it. After having told him he said that we could fix it but how do you fix 93 miles when he doesn't have a lot of free time? I'm just really confused as to what to do, can anyone give me some advice or help me in some other way?
Rollercoasterr Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 Considering the fact that I travel 50 miles to work every day, I wouldn't see a 93 mile relationship as a burden or a reason to end anything. However, if you're feeling this strained after only 3 months and you're thinking of ending it, it probably means that it's the right thing to do for YOU. You need to be happy in your life and relationships, and if you aren't currently then I'm afraid you never will be. What does your heart tell you to do? Ask yourself that. And answer honestly. Good luck sweetheart. I hope that everything works out for you.
Bearandsue Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 Which is it? Does he have the time to see you and won't? or Is he really busy and can't see you as much as you would like? It could be that he is a busy person and he genuinely don't have the time to see you. And you talked to him about it and he says he is willing to work on it. Why not suggest ways to change the situation instead of shooting down the idea before you give it a try. The fact that he say he wants to fix it says a lot. I am actually one of those people who don't get to see their SO for months. And I never have a definite time when I will see him again. I think you are very lucky you see him as often as you do. Try to appreciate and enjoy the time you do spend together instead of dwelling on when you will see him again.
Rollercoasterr Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 Oh, Mrs. Bear..... Sorry, just had to add that.
Els Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 When he DOESN'T have the time, what is it because of? Irregular and unpredictable work schedule? Or because he makes his own arrangements (with his friends etc) on a whim and you get whatever's left over?
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