james197 Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 Am I mad?? I dumped my girlfriend of 6 months recently. I had given her a second chance after she had kissed her gay friend on her bday, while I was in the same bar even. Lately I had found out she'd gone clubbing though she had let on to me she had been to pubs only. I also found out they, her and her mates, had bumped into a stag, who looked after them by buying them a few drinks. Now I had serious doubts about that and was well convinced something had gone on. When I confronted her about the night whe bumped into a stag with her mates, she denied she had done anything. She says here mates kissed some of the guys but that she didn't. I accused her of lying and ended things with her. Now a week on, though I've seen a girl since who likes me and am not desperate for a relationship at all, I want the girl back that I've broken up with. Am I mad to want this girl back?
dressing up Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 Why do you want her back? What's your motivation?
Author james197 Posted June 29, 2009 Author Posted June 29, 2009 Dunno, it's hard to say. Not a guy thing to admit it, but I do miss her and the time we spent together.
icepop Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 ok...let me get this straight..you broke up with your girl of 6 months, dated a new one immediately within a week..and now suddenly you want your old GF back ? After you broke up with her ? yes, you are mad...seek counseling
jnj express Posted July 1, 2009 Posted July 1, 2009 Do you like pain, and heartbrake, try beating yourself up----Hey you know what take her back, so she can go clubbing on you again, will the pain be easier to take the 2nd time. Has she shown any remorse, or are you just grovelling after her. You have to decide what to do, and you have to live with your decision, you have already been given a lot of advice previously, time for YOU to decide what to do.
Dexter Morgan Posted July 2, 2009 Posted July 2, 2009 When I confronted her about the night whe bumped into a stag with her mates, she denied she had done anything. She says here mates kissed some of the guys but that she didn't. I accused her of lying and ended things with her. you've told us enough about her to know she is lying when she said she didn't kiss anyone. your x-gf is an attention wh0re and can't seem to stay away from men and flirting with them to save her life. Now a week on, though I've seen a girl since who likes me and am not desperate for a relationship at all, I want the girl back that I've broken up with. Am I mad to want this girl back? YES!! you are mad to want a little partying, clubbing tart back. And its damn disrespectful for you to not give the current girl a chance. I'd feel damn bad if I was a girl and found out you wanted a cheating clubhound that can't be trusted as far as you could throw her.
Dexter Morgan Posted July 2, 2009 Posted July 2, 2009 Dunno, it's hard to say. Not a guy thing to admit it, but I do miss her and the time we spent together. if you want this tart back, it must be all about looks and superficiality....cuz it sure can't be for her character or personality. and since she seems like some partying floosey, you can add ditz to the list of undesirable characteristics.
lora22 Posted July 2, 2009 Posted July 2, 2009 *SIGH* Go back and read everything Dexter and I and many others wrote in your other two threads. And to answer your question, YES, you are mad.
Dexter Morgan Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 james, don't take what Lora and I say to you as us getting down on you. We are in your corner!! We don't want to see you learn the same hard lesson as we have(or maybe I since I don't exactly know lora's story). I can guarantee you if you get back with her, you are just going to be here again telling a story of how she is cheating again. even if not, you would be settling for someone that has screwed other men during your marriage to you. It isn't something you'll forget, and you will always be suspicious of her. there are good women out there for you...your wife, however, is not one of them.
lora22 Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 james, don't take what Lora and I say to you as us getting down on you. We are in your corner!! We don't want to see you learn the same hard lesson as we have(or maybe I since I don't exactly know lora's story). I can guarantee you if you get back with her, you are just going to be here again telling a story of how she is cheating again. even if not, you would be settling for someone that has screwed other men during your marriage to you. It isn't something you'll forget, and you will always be suspicious of her. there are good women out there for you...your wife, however, is not one of them. Exactly. You deserve better, and you can definitely find better. You deserve to be respected in all your relationships; it's one of the foundations of a good, healthy relationship. Also, you might like certain things about this girl, but she obviously doesn't make you happy, since you have all these questions about her shady/crappy/disrespectful/cheating/lying behavior. She makes you feel bad and she causes drama. What do you want a part of that for? Trust me when I say you will be so much better off and so much happier (even if you don't think so now) with someone who doesn't do those things - you will find someone just as pretty, fun, smart, fill in the blank (or more so!), who makes you happy, and treats you with respect - in other words, the whole package. That can't happen when you're letting some cheating beyatch into your life. So please give yourself a chance to be happy and respected (you should demand it).
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