tee18 Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 so we are really happy together we have one big old fight and split up. we've split up a million times but i'm still crazy about him. even tho he has told me that hes done with it for good. what should i think?
dreamergrl Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 That if you've been splitting up so much, it's for the better.
Author tee18 Posted June 29, 2009 Author Posted June 29, 2009 i know it sounds crazy but we have a really intense love. and when we were are together its wonderful. like i'm never as happy as i am with him
TaraMaiden Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 Yes, but you make it sound as if you've been apart more whilst together, than together more whilst together...if you follow. If you've had umpteen breaks, on of two things is possible: Either you're great as friends but definitely incompatible as a couple - or you're very immature about your problems and you break up more than discuss matters. Not every problem is solved by communication, but no problem at all is ever worked out by breaking up. Which means you get back together without ever doing anything concrete about the problem which caused the break up in the first place. "Oh, we're back together - that must mean things are fine again!" They're not. So - roll on the next break up....
dreamergrl Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 Breaking up and reuniting is not a mature way to deal with a problem. Sitting down and having a rational conversation like two mature adults is how to solve a problem. If you can't come to an agreement, and it's a deal breaker, then it's time to move on. But really, by breaking up and getting back together, all your doing is inviting more problems.
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