Didxxs Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 Alright Hi, If this wasn't a dilemma of sorts i wouldn't be here in the first place, so i sincerely hope for your advice I was standing at a bus stop and this guy pulls up in his car, enters the shop and then reckons to me through the class to give him a minute ...he walks out and we exchange hellos. He is going the same way as i am, offers a lift. I agree. I NEVER EVER take lifts form strangers but here i was....without hesitation. Drops me home, takes my number and says he is preparing for a fight that week and will phone after for drink up. I dint ask for his number. 6days later, on a Saturday evening, he phones and wants me to go to his house to chill out. I say no because i had other plans but i offer to meet up next day since i was gonna be in his neighbourhood, my place of work. Sunday afternoon,We meet up, have quick drinks, he asks if i want to join him and friends for dinner but i had made plans already. Tuesday, he phones and wants to grab a quick bite with me, i agree but cant stay for long because i was gonna meet up a friend after work. He offers we eat near the place i was gonna meet my friend, Later my friend cant find his way, and this new friend of mine offers to collect him from train station after which he leaves and we stay. Wednesday, he phones and am in class. Wants us to go eat. He offers to wait till end of my class whch forty minutes he uses to drive all the way to collect me. W eat and he drops me home. This is 3rd handing out and the chemistry all these few days is so strong on either side. Drops me home and he initiates a kiss....very nice. He is impressed and says he's never been kissed by a woman that way. When he gets home, he texts the same......and starts flirting and suggests he cant wait to have his hands all over my body and i reckon to him, am not yet ready for that. He acts alright via next sms that night. Next day friday he phones and we chat. Then he goes cold all saturady and sunday. Later sunday evening we hook up and go eat. But he is keeping physical distance....This time sitting opposite me unlike the first three times. No communication Monday till Wednesday. He phones and we chat. Its cold i suggest i could do with a cuddle. Later we meet up for the cuddle and i was very clear, thats all i wanted. We end up at his flat and kiss and i let him know, am not ready for sex. He respects my position and we cuddle till morning. Leaves me in his flat, goes to work and i let myself out later. That week, he has got another fight and has to travel. He is back on Sunday. I try to get in touch twice on phone and he talks fine, promises to call but does not. Wednesday i let him know, i feel like am being a nag because i had sent up to four texts on phone and there was no response. I let him know, i seem to be getting the message. He phones back later at night, to say, he thinks he is growing fond of me, and is sexually attracted to me but he just finished a relationship, does not want to start another one immediately and therefore is distant because he doesn't want to lead me on.... Alright i ask myself, what then he has been doing with me. I chill out and inform him am in the same boat. just finished a relationship and dint want jumping into bed with a man right away much as the physical tension and attraction with him is heavy. we chill out and Sunday he phones and wants to grab a drink with me. Picks me out, we go out and end up at his house. at this point, am thinking, yes i don't want a relationship but yeah nature calls and i could do with just being in the sack once. I knew what i wanted and how to manage the after effects. We kiss, romance and duh, he wants to have sex without a condom. I am all naked, he is all naked and there is no condom. I ask him if he got any, and he says no. And i suggest we go buy and he says its late and say "I am clean" and i reply "Okay, but its better if we have rubber" He respects my opinion and the sex never happens and we simply pleasure each other in different ways. Morning comes and he is feeling all cuddly and almost misses job reporting time. Then he leaves me in his flat and goes. I let myself out. later that day he calls and we have a brief chat and i let him know next time if he forgets i will carry the rubber. thats was seven days ago. And he has gone quiet. I sent a text checking and he sent a smiley response on Friday. That was it. Now what makes a man want to go live on a woman without a condom and simply says he is clean? Could it be that he is probably just not that into me... Duh this is long but i seemed to actually like him and wouldn't mind a casual friendship with sex...since i also just finished a relationship and need time out to sort things out with my career. Then he goes quiet all week, and following week. Non communicative. I try a couple of texts... Just tell me what you think. I would have loved a casual or friends with benefits like of affair...but he has gone from hot- cold-warm.....
Katherineos123 Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 Seems to me like this guy mightve been after one thing, and he wasnt getting it... He either felt offended or bored. Either way, sounds like a jerk. Forget about him!
Author Didxxs Posted June 29, 2009 Author Posted June 29, 2009 Seems to me like this guy mightve been after one thing, and he wasnt getting it... He either felt offended or bored. Either way, sounds like a jerk. Forget about him! Thanks.for this. i first posted this in amnother forum, then thought i had directed to a wrong forum...and reposted again in this friends and lovers. I have received some good advice just like yours here. thanks
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