ddpurple Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 I have to start by saying that i can't believe i'm doing this. But i can't sleep, so i need advices... I've been with this girl for almost a year now. And we love each other so much and want to have a future together. But as with any relationship we have our fights. She was misbehaving lately and kept bitching about me spending more time lately with one of my buddies playing tennis. But i just wanted to get in shape and i told her that, but she wouldn't understand. And i kept playing tennis and we got in a fight and we didn't talk for a week. And during this week she went out with her co-workers, she had a few drinks( she didn't get drunk though cause she was able to drive!) she flirted with a guy and he offered to walk her to her car and once there they started kissing. She says that she stopped kissing him at some point because she realised it's not what she wanted. That she wanted me. The guy she kissed knew she had a boyfriend ( me ) and she also knew that that guy had a pregnant wife. And they all work together. And still they did what they did! Also to be known that two months ago she told me she has an admirer at work and that if I mistreat her i would push her in his arms! And i told her to stop flirting with guys or something bad is gonna happen. She admitted to me all this and i didn't break up with her because i love her so much and i know she loves me too. Now she is trying to win my trust once again, but this feeling is eating me alive from the inside and i keep thinking about it all the time... I really need your advice!
Lyssa Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 she has an admirer at work and that if I mistreat her i would push her in his arms! So she threatened you? Geez. Can you ever trust her after what she did? If you can do that then give him another chance. I know I couldn't if I were in your situation.
Bejita463 Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 I have to start by saying that i can't believe i'm doing this. But i can't sleep, so i need advices... I've been with this girl for almost a year now. And we love each other so much and want to have a future together. But as with any relationship we have our fights. She was misbehaving lately and kept bitching about me spending more time lately with one of my buddies playing tennis. But i just wanted to get in shape and i told her that, but she wouldn't understand. And i kept playing tennis and we got in a fight and we didn't talk for a week. And during this week she went out with her co-workers, she had a few drinks( she didn't get drunk though cause she was able to drive!) she flirted with a guy and he offered to walk her to her car and once there they started kissing. She says that she stopped kissing him at some point because she realised it's not what she wanted. That she wanted me. The guy she kissed knew she had a boyfriend ( me ) and she also knew that that guy had a pregnant wife. And they all work together. And still they did what they did! Also to be known that two months ago she told me she has an admirer at work and that if I mistreat her i would push her in his arms! And i told her to stop flirting with guys or something bad is gonna happen. She admitted to me all this and i didn't break up with her because i love her so much and i know she loves me too. Now she is trying to win my trust once again, but this feeling is eating me alive from the inside and i keep thinking about it all the time... I really need your advice! She's manipulating you. The bolded parts are where you've pretty clearly described how her interests are all what she wants.
Citizen Erased Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 She cheated, dump her. She is manipulative, dump her. I have no doubt at all that you will be better off without her. She pretty much warned you she would cheat if you pissed her off and you did so she did. The one quality you should be looking for is loyalty and she has none. She will do it again because she won't respect you. You let her off way too easy.
door-mat Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 RUN!!!once a cheat always a cheat. she will just get worse!!
samsungxoxo Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 I smell a rotten fish here. Not only did she cheat but manipulated you into making you think it's your fault if she cheats. Wow I'm surprise you didn't dump her as soon as she say ''If you mistreat me, you would push me into his arms''. That was an immediate dump.
Untouchable_Fire Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 Now she is trying to win my trust once again, but this feeling is eating me alive from the inside and i keep thinking about it all the time... I really need your advice! Are you serious? If you don't dump her, then your retarded. Actually calling you that would be an insult to those who are mentally challenged, because even they are smarter than that. I just have no idea where guys like you come from...
samspade Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 She admitted to me all this and i didn't break up with her because i love her so much and i know she loves me too. Translation: I didn't break up with her because I'm weak and afraid to be alone, and I've rationalized to myself that her behavior is okay as long as she tells me she loves me. DUMP her! You're better off alone.
The Blue Pill Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 Sorry man, drop it like it's hot. If a woman can't even respect you enough and understand your wanting to improve yourself (physically), that's bad enough, but to go out and mess around during a spat, UNACCEPTABLE. She went into it with the intention to be bad, and she was bad. There was obviously sexual tension between these co-workers before hand, and she knew exactly what she was getting into. Seriously, get away from her while you can. Once a cheater, always a cheater. She doesn't respect you. Do you want to be in a relationship like this? When there are 3 billion other women in the world to choose from?
Dexter Morgan Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 Now she is trying to win my trust once again, but this feeling is eating me alive from the inside and i keep thinking about it all the time... I really need your advice! well just what could she do to win your trust back? aside from never going out for drinks without you? and she works with this guy? nice, real nice. I dunno, only way to make sure she isn't doing this is to tell her you won't trust her going out like that again. And you don't really want to do that, nor do you want to be some prison guard. this is the very reason I won't date anyone that feels the need to go out, drink, party, or go clubbing. But i guarantee you, she isn't to be trusted out drinking when you aren't with her. I'd say move on, but hey, its your call.
jnj express Posted July 1, 2009 Posted July 1, 2009 You have been with her for a year, and she loves you, but she gets drunk, and makes out with a married man, who himself is a real slimeball who is out cheating on his PREGNANT wife. Stop telling us she loves you---if you love someone you don't go out drinking and making out with other people, you are WITH THE PERSON YOU LOVE, and don't need to go out with unattached co-workers
Spectre Posted July 4, 2009 Posted July 4, 2009 Yeah, you need to dump her. She cheats on you..which is bad enough, but she does it with a co-worker? Which means she is going to be seeing him everyday. Not to mention, a co-worker with a pregnant wife? This girl has zero class, drop her.
Brehus Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 I would dump her she is trying to control you. If she is willing to cheat on you she isn't worth it. I would find a girl better looking then her and make sure one of friends see you with her. Here is a good song to listen to kind of fits what is going on
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