Dasilva Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 I guess I am currently on a "break" which was initiated by my parter, not me. She tells me that her intentions are to help us in the long run. I am just wondering if there are any people that have had a break? how long? and after was the relationship better than before? was it just a disguise for them really wanting to end it? Did you talk to any other people? Did they talk to any other people? Thanks for any replies
sandy12345678993 Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 My ex asked me for a break so he could deal with some things. He felt he couldn't give me his full attention at the time. He told me that is was specifically not a break up, and that he loved me and would be back for me. He said we would talk about it tomorrow. Well I didn't hear from him the next day and haven't heard from him since. This was over 2 months ago. His phone number was changed, and I had no other way to get ahold of him. It was long distance. I don't know exactly what happened with him, and I probably won't find out. And it hurt like absolute hell to not know. So, no, my "break" didn't turn out so well.
NopeNah Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 Hard truth...I've found that 99% of the time when women/men leave, it's for another. What she is saying(in my opinion) is, she wants you there incase it doesn't work out with him.
Beeotch Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 I guess I am currently on a "break" which was initiated by my parter, not me. She tells me that her intentions are to help us in the long run. I am just wondering if there are any people that have had a break? how long? and after was the relationship better than before? was it just a disguise for them really wanting to end it? Did you talk to any other people? Did they talk to any other people? Thanks for any replies I was on a break which really turned out to be a break up...
boogieboy Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 Yeah tell your girl that if your on break, you both agree not to see other people. If she doesnt say OK right away, tell her to F*** off, and for her never to talk to you again, because she broke up with you without telling you the truth. Shes a coward, too chicken to tell you she is already dating someone else. its so common on this board, its ridiculous.
adamt Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 I guess I am currently on a "break" which was initiated by my parter, not me. She tells me that her intentions are to help us in the long run. I am just wondering if there are any people that have had a break? how long? and after was the relationship better than before? was it just a disguise for them really wanting to end it? Did you talk to any other people? Did they talk to any other people? Thanks for any replies My ex requested a break. 2 weeks into the break she emailed me saying she missed me. 2 weeks after that she got intouch and we met and i was expecting us to clear the air and make a proper go of it. She broke up. i think the break is just her way of having space to see if she misses you and how it will be without you. her way of seeing if she has fallen out of love with you and her feelings are changing. I'm sure most of the time a break will lead to a permanent split. not spoke to her in 5 weeks. if she wants to meet up, i would cover all bases and be prepared for the worst.
asuman Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 My ex asked me for a break so he could deal with some things. He felt he couldn't give me his full attention at the time. He told me that is was specifically not a break up, and that he loved me and would be back for me. He said we would talk about it tomorrow. Well I didn't hear from him the next day and haven't heard from him since. This was over 2 months ago. His phone number was changed, and I had no other way to get ahold of him. It was long distance. I don't know exactly what happened with him, and I probably won't find out. And it hurt like absolute hell to not know. So, no, my "break" didn't turn out so well. Wow sandy. A lot of us have brutal stories to tell on this forum but yours is really harsh. I'm sorry you've gone through this. Although you're obviously better off without such a guy in your life anymore. To answer the OP's question, the one time I asked for a "break" in a serious relationship I was in, it was because I found myself deeply attracted to another woman. I felt conflicted about this and it really bothered me. So I basically told my gf at the time that I wasn't sure how I felt about the relationship, and I think we needed to at least temporarily call things off for a while. She was very saddened by this but accepted it. The funny ending to the story: I asked out the other woman. It turns out she had a boyfriend. She still wanted to go out with me "as friends" though. So we did, but nothing came of it (except for an actual friendship, which we still have today). Meanwhile, I decided to go back to my gf. It was a long-distance thing and one day my gf was visiting me and I took her to campus (I was a grad student, so was the other woman). We ran into the other woman, so I just casually introduced them to each other. Despite telling me that she had a boyfriend and despite our having gone for lunches many times just as friends, the moment the other woman realized that my gf was my gf she turned a shade of deep purple that I've never seen on a human being in my life. My gf even noticed this and later remarked to me, "I think that girl has a thing for you. Did you notice her blushing when you told her who I was?" Ugh. The whole thing makes me uncomfortable and I make no claims that I handled it as well as I should have.
life_is_life Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 For me, going on a break meant the end of love (for him, anyway). He said he needed time and see if he could "make himself love me again"... A month later, I ended it completely.
aboynamedmike Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 i took a break from my ex for a few days. I was feeling like i was "stuck" with her and had lost my freedoms. I ended up coming back because I really loved her...but as weeks went by I gradually went back to the feeling I had originally had and ended up having to do the hardest thing I've ever done, break up with someone you're still in love with. They say relationships are all about timing, and I think we just tried too soon. We're 20, and in college, and it's hard to have a relationship. I hope in the future, when we're more mature we can meet up. God i miss her...
broncos23 Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 Basically I guess I will add to the failure rate here. I've never initiated a break, and in the last relationship I was she asked for 2 breaks. The first one was not even that bad at all. It lasted no longer than a week. I did get me thinking though about the whole relationship. She then asked for another one 3 months down the road. This was was for 2 days, but those 2 days had done it's harm. We eventually got back together but you could sense things were clearly not all right. I did not talk to her for about 2 weeks and a couple of days later she broke up with me. In my experience breaks don't seem to work out, but there are people out there who say that they help the relationship and help strengthen them. Who knows.
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