sounsure Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 Hi, Well, I move into a new house this Wednesday, without my husband. I have been having so many emotions. He is so unwilling to work on our marriage and while I feel he is not and has never been the person I envisioned myself with, I am so devastated that he has completely shut me out. He spends hours talking to this "new" girl and other female friends. He lies over and over and over again. Yet I still want him to want to work on our marriage. Yet I'm so excited to be starting a new life. I am going to have so much more time as i won't have to take care of him anymore. I have been the one to do most everything in our marriage - pay bills, bathe the kids, make sure the dog is fed... basically running the household while he would play with the kids and on occasion, pick up. I am not perfect - far from it. But, I am a good person who does the right things when it comes to my family. So I should be so relieved to be out of this mess, right? Why am I so upset all the time. Whenever he is around I just lose it. Crying, yelling, etc. Geez, I hope this begins to get better once I get in the new house. Are these all normal emotions? I'm so ready to get off this rollercoaster!!
LisaUk Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 Hi, yes your emotions are completely normal. My ex wouldn't try and work things out with me, he didn't even let me know there were problems, just left. In addition, because of this I've lost my home, no job, living back with my parents. He lies, he's cold, heartless, cruel etc. I should feel nothing for him, right? yet I do, I want him to come back and try and work on things so much. You are mourning the loss of the person you thought you were with, but that person no longer exists. You are mourning the loss of the future you believed you were going to have. All completely normal and painful. I am assured that it will get better with time, by others who have been there before. I REALLY hope so. Keep posting.
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