Losing my mind>>>>

[lildiva385]

I am a single parent,who has been dating a guy for 2yrs who i work with! It has been up and downs on a rocky rollercoaster. When i met this guy he had alot of issues but i upgraded him and helped him out because i saw that he was good person who just needed help.Now that he has gotten his self together or relationship has became distant. Recently he has told me that he wants to see other people and has been seeing someone else and that he can't continue to deal with someone he works with and that we 2 different futures. I have am heart broken!!!!! not only because i was by his side when he was down but because i thought we had something.

 

Now he wants to be friends and still wants a relationship with my kid who he has gotten attached to, he is still there whenever i need anything. I recently invited him over and he stood me up three times he keeps expressing to me that he doesn't want to have sex but his actions say another. He still tells me he loves me and my son, flirts with me at work , he says he doesn't have a girlfriend and he needs time to gather his thoughts! To top it off He wants to talk about everything else but our relationship! I need answers i don't understand what went wrong, who he has been seeing, how long he has been seeing her, did i do something wrong.? he wil not talk about it he ignores me or changes the subject!

 

I don't know rather to continue to be his friend or give him the silent treatment until i get the answers I NEED but i am mad and hEARTBROKEN!

 

I AM SO FREAKIN CONFUSED ! Should i let it go ? Shoul i sleep with him again, pLEASE HELP

[loveshy]

Why dont you try telling him that you have started seeing someone else? That you can't deal with someone who works with you.

 

What he is thinking is to work with the other girl out and make you wait for him. If it works out with the other girl, he will leave you. But if it doesn't then he would come back.

 

The best thing would be to make yourself busy for him.

Don't flirt with him. If he asks something like how are you doing.. Just reply I am fine. Don't ask how he is doing.

Don't invite him.

Don't give him sex. He would just be using you.

Don't ask about RELATIONSHIP. Its over.

 

Remember You Don't Want To Be A Second Option.

 

You din't do anything wrong but some people are self-centred.

 

And look for a person who doesn't has issues. The person needs to solve his issues himself.

[lildiva385]

:mad:LOVESHY__ appreciate your honest opinion!! I will try your advice hit!