Am I stupid?

[No use for a name]

I’m pretty…well dumb when it comes to women… for a lack of better words. I can never really tell when they are interested. I was in an 8 year relationship almost 3 years ago and it took me 2 of those years to get over her. I have been out of the game for so long that I basically have no idea what the hell I’m doing now. I chalk everything a woman does up to just being friendly. I haven’t even been on one date in over a year.

 

I have been a regular at a diner in town for some years now. My buddies and I will usually go there after a night out to get some late night food. There is a waitress there that has always been very nice and is pretty cute too. I never really thought anything of the situation before because I always kind of figured she was out of my league and besides, no one ever gets the waitress. She gets hit on all the time I’m sure. I always order the same thing when I go there. She began to tease me a bit about my order and even gave me a little nick name. One night on a diner run she was telling us how she has a second job at a new local bar/restaurant in town and that we should come by. Later that week a buddy and I went for some food there. She seemed so excited to see us and referred to me with that little nick name. She said she was afraid she would never see me again because she wasn’t really working at the diner anymore but here I was at her new place of employment. When she wasn’t busy she would come over and talk to us. Hell, she even cleared our plates and she wasn’t even our waitress. After that she said we should go to the diner on Saturday nights because that’s when she worked there. Since then we have gone to the diner a bunch of times and she always seems happy to see me. On father’s day my dad wanted to go to the new restaurant that she works at so we went. She also happened to be working that afternoon and when she saw me she came running over…this time using my real name. Seems she had learned it. I introduced her to my father and she told him how I frequent the restaurants she works at.

Last night after a hanging at a local bar me and my buddy went to the diner. She wasn’t working it seemed. About 10 minutes later she came in. When she saw us sitting at the counter she came running over and asked for a hug. I was a little shocked but gave it to her. She then awkwardly hugged my friend a little bit. She introduced us to a dude sitting at one of the booths who turned out to be her cousin and explained to him who we were. Unfortunately for my buddy she didn’t know his name so I told her and joked around with her a bit. She came over a couple times and made some conversation and when we were done eating we said goodbye to her and walked out. On the way out the door my friend turned and said to me that he thinks she is interested in me and only hugged him because she hugged me. I denied it and claimed she was just being friendly.

 

I guess my question is based on this situation what do other people think? I’m really dense when it comes to this kind of thing and I need to be hit over the head by it. Am I being hit over the head now? I don’t even know…

[lizzy_09]

I think she might like you to. Ever heard of that quote "It's better to have tried and failed then not to have tried at all"? Why not ask her out for a date at one time. Just try.

[Bejita463]

I'm a pretty oblivious dude, and that behavior is obvious even to me. What are you waiting for man? An engraved invitation?

[sbs]

Long relationships creates an effect in man, like the zoo creates the effect on animals. It makes forget how to live on the wild.

 

Don't need to wait more. Ask her out, the worst thing that can happen? she say no. The best can happen is an infinite of possibilities.

 

2 tips:

1. Remember she see plates and food all day, don't ask her out on a dinner, go for drink, tea or ice cream.

2. This can boost your confidence. "All the girls are into you..." if a girl say no, her lost.