Confusedalways Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 I am so confused.. no wonder I picked this username Anyway, I could use some help! I am 22 years old and my friend Mark is 23. I just got my undergrad degree and a job locally for the time being. Mark is getting his masters, also locally. Abridged version of our history: We have known each other since we were 3. Went to preschool, grade school, middle school and high school together. Mark had a little crush on me from 2nd grade to about... 8th grade. During high school we became pretty good friends, talked a lot, saw the occasional movie in group settings, did a lot of school clubs together, some sports and activities etc. Not to say we were best best friends but we were pretty good friends. Our senior year of HS, he got a girlfriend and needless to say we lost touch in college, which I blame both of us for. Fast forward to senior year of college, said girlfriend is long since history. In October I for some reason decided to instant message Mark out of no where. We talked for a few hours, caught up, had a nice conversation and I was so excited to be talking to him, as we had been so close at one point. Well life happens and that was the last I heard of him... he's busy, I'm busy, it happens. We both rarely were online as it was. About a week ago, I ran into his brother at my place of employment. His brother asked what happened between myself and Mark, we used to be best friends. I told him I didn't know, but to tell Mark I said hi. The brother told me to give Mark a call, that we should do something and I should 'seriously give him a call.' I told him I didn't think so, that's ok, I don't have his number [true] etc. Brother continued... "PLEASE, just call him! seriously. call him. He's not even doing anything this summer. call!! just call!! Go see a movie or something!" I said no. Brother wrote down Mark's phone number and gave it to me, insisting I call and he would tell Mark I'm calling so I better do it. I laughed but his brother was not kidding, he really wanted me to call. I toyed with the situation and shot Mark a text that night... something along the lines of hey, I know its random but just wanted to see how everything was going with you etc. He wrote back "fine." Well, I figured, screw him. Went about my life. This morning my away message on AIM said 'at the dentist.' Mark IMed me, this morning, while I was away saying 'ugh I hate the dentist!!' Signed off 3 seconds later. I'm sorry but what. the. hell? Is he socially awkward and the IM was a way of saying 'hey, i'm still here!' Was he being nice? Should I text him again? Should I IM him again?! What does this all mean! He has no facebook and is rarely on AIM. Is the ball in my court again? help! Ideally i'd like to date him and at least see if something was there, hence my confusion.
dreamergrl Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 That's pretty darn confusing. If it were me, at this point, I'd say screw it, if he wants to talk to me, he can call me and make the effort. It sounded like his brother may have thought he liked you or something.. I was kind of expecting a different end to this story. But still... if he can't find the time to call, or give you more of a response then "fine"... then it's not worth it.
The Blue Pill Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 The ball IS in your court since he was the last to contact, so now it's your turn. Try to set up a casual event for the two of you. Nobody really knows what to say after a long absence so it may be awkward.
Author Confusedalways Posted June 28, 2009 Author Posted June 28, 2009 That's pretty darn confusing. If it were me, at this point, I'd say screw it, if he wants to talk to me, he can call me and make the effort. It sounded like his brother may have thought he liked you or something.. I was kind of expecting a different end to this story. But still... if he can't find the time to call, or give you more of a response then "fine"... then it's not worth it. Confusing yes! I'm glad I am not the only one who thinks so. I thought the same about the brother, and was genuinely confused about the response I got in text. I thought about just letting him call me or whatever but I'd hate to pass something up while being a stubborn person. Ahh!
dreamergrl Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 The ball IS in your court since he was the last to contact, so now it's your turn. Try to set up a casual event for the two of you. Nobody really knows what to say after a long absence so it may be awkward. I disagree. She's tried several times to talk to him. His short closed end responses aren't exactly something one would want to respond too. It's not as if he was like "Hey! What are you up to?!"
Author Confusedalways Posted June 29, 2009 Author Posted June 29, 2009 The ball IS in your court since he was the last to contact, so now it's your turn. Try to set up a casual event for the two of you. Nobody really knows what to say after a long absence so it may be awkward. I was afraid the ball was back in my court. Ugh. I'm not sure whether I should hit the ball back over the net or not
Author Confusedalways Posted June 30, 2009 Author Posted June 30, 2009 Not to be annoying but does anyone else have any insight?
colosseum Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 From the way his brother is so insistent sounds like Mark may have some needs, not sure what though. I'd be curious why the brother was so insistent. I'd say call him (no texts or IMs; those are too ambiguous to be helpful) to see if you and he can get together, at least leave a message, but make that your last test. If he returns your call/reciprocates/responds, then go from there. If he doesn't, then leave him. Best of luck to you.
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