Author dreamergrl Posted July 1, 2009 Author Posted July 1, 2009 I see that as jumping to conclusions, in that dog in a manger, has nothing to do with caring and everything to do with pride/ego, tied into self-esteem. Straight up, even if someone's pining for me and I haven't given them any encouragement, it's not my responsibility to worry about what they're feeling. I'm responsible for my actions of not leading them on. If I lead them on, that's another thing, where I'm responsible for being a shyte. If she isn't doing anything that warrants a call to the police (and it doesn't sound like she is) she's free and clear; she's allowed to pine over him if she wants. It's what HE does about her pining that counts. I guess I kind of look at it as if she's laying "I love you's" all over the place for new and old to see, by him not saying anything in return, or leaving them up for new and old to see, it's kind of an encouragement. Maybe he has nothing to hide, but in the same aspect, he's not doing anything to discourage whatever it is she's trying to do.
Trialbyfire Posted July 1, 2009 Posted July 1, 2009 I guess I kind of look at it as if she's laying "I love you's" all over the place for new and old to see, by him not saying anything in return, or leaving them up for new and old to see, it's kind of an encouragement. Maybe he has nothing to hide, but in the same aspect, he's not doing anything to discourage whatever it is she's trying to do. That's an absorption of responsibility that shouldn't be owned by another individual. To use an extreme example of such, let's pretend that she threatened suicide, if he left her. Is he responsible to stay with her, to ensure she doesn't do this? Or if he still left her and she did commit suicide, is this his responsibility to bear?
Author dreamergrl Posted July 1, 2009 Author Posted July 1, 2009 That's an absorption of responsibility that shouldn't be owned by another individual. To use an extreme example of such, let's pretend that she threatened suicide, if he left her. Is he responsible to stay with her, to ensure she doesn't do this? Or if he still left her and she did commit suicide, is this his responsibility to bear? I see what you're saying. But let's say you where him, and you got those comments so everyone could see, including possible future bf's. What would you do with them? Leave them up? Take them down? Now lets say you were my friend. If you saw that, wouldn't you be a bit skeptical about dating him? Me, I would back off... it seems like dating a guy who has a girl still wanting him like that, and doesn't seem to be going any where is asking for drama.
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