SBG04 Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 Many of the other threads tackle the feelings of moving on, but what about the nitty-gritty? I'm struggling to cope with the both, but find these areas bugging me as well. Like... What do I do with my iphoto albums? Naturally I don't want to delete the photos, but do I just make one big album, dump everything from the past 5 years and go from there? Or do I keep them broken up into events/occasions like they are now? And do you (and if so at what point) delete her family members from your phone/address book? Please post any suggestions or answers as well as other 'less emotional' based questions as well, cos I know i'm missing a whole heap.
asuman Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 Many of the other threads tackle the feelings of moving on, but what about the nitty-gritty? I'm struggling to cope with the both, but find these areas bugging me as well. Like... What do I do with my iphoto albums? Naturally I don't want to delete the photos, but do I just make one big album, dump everything from the past 5 years and go from there? Or do I keep them broken up into events/occasions like they are now? And do you (and if so at what point) delete her family members from your phone/address book? Please post any suggestions or answers as well as other 'less emotional' based questions as well, cos I know i'm missing a whole heap. Take every single reminder you have of her, down to the last photo, and store it away where you can't access it. If you're not capable of that, get rid of them completely. Unless you had kids together, there's no reason to keep in touch with her family members. Delete them from your contacts and cellphones.
Lyssa Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 What do I do with my iphoto albums? Naturally I don't want to delete the photos, but do I just make one big album, dump everything from the past 5 years and go from there? Or do I keep them broken up into events/occasions like they are now? For all the photos I had of my ex - I transfered them into a couple of CDs and tucked them away in a box. I didn't even break them up into events/occassions as I didn't want to go through them all. And do you (and if so at what point) delete her family members from your phone/address book? I deleted all his family members from my phone book. I couldn't deal with them as it was because of them (his mother and sister) that he broke up with me. I'm over it now though - I am still good friends with (after we broke up a few years) and his younger brother has always been nice so we still keep in touch now and then. Please post any suggestions or answers as well as other 'less emotional' based questions as well, cos I know i'm missing a whole heap. I can't think of any nitty-gritty stuff . When things end, I just go all out!
Road To Joy Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 What do I do with my iphoto albums? Naturally I don't want to delete the photos, but do I just make one big album, dump everything from the past 5 years and go from there? Or do I keep them broken up into events/occasions like they are now? Just like it was suggested before, save them onto a CD and put them away. Do not leave them on your computer! And don't sort them out, there's no need for that. When you're ready to look at them again, it'll be when you're completely over him and by then you won't care about them being sorted anyways. And do you (and if so at what point) delete her family members from your phone/address book? Again, as suggested before, you shouldn't keep contact with them unless you have kids. I understand if you had good relationships with them, though. In this situation, tell them you have to stop talking to them for your own sanity and recovery and that it's nothing personal. Tell them you'll talk to them when you're ready. I told my ex's little sister (who I saw as my own) that I needed to move on from her sister and that it's nothing personal, but that meant I had to stop talking to her for a while. I told her to try to contact me in a year (I guessed I'd be over her by then). If I'm not, then I simply won't reply to the email (if she even contacts me in a year, though she said she would), and I will when I'm ready. Other than that, I deleted all their numbers and I'm changing my phone number soon just in case. If you didn't have a good relationship with them believe me it's better for you. Also, if you did and you're going to tell them that you'll contact them again when you're ready make sure you're actually focusing on moving on and healing rather than waiting to talk to them. This won't do any good and it'll only stretch the time out. Good luck!
sedgwick Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 I blocked my ex from phone/email/facebook, deleted all pics of and emails from him, and threw away all the stuff he'd left here on the day he dumped me. Why keep it? He doesn't want me, why should I hang onto memories of him? I also deleted everyone I knew through him from facebook. I didn't want to see them posting pictures of him, and I didn't want to be tempted to ask about him.
Odyssey Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 I'm the same, deleting all my ex's contact details & boxing up everything that reminded me of her. Having the strength to do that, was the best thing i could have done. It really helps speed up with moving on.
jlr Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 I'm too this point too. Where I'm deciding what to do with stuff. I have it all tucked in a drawer for now and in one folder on my computer. It's rough though, there's been times where I'm tempted to look at them. Luckily, my ex doesn't use her Facebook much, so I don't see updates really. But the moment I do, it will kill me. So I'm tempted to severe that too. I find myself sometimes looking at her Myspace page (which she doesn't use much either) to see if people have commented or something. I actually got an inkling she was seeing someone else recently from something a friend of hers wrote on it. Plus it always makes me sad because I designed her page for her. Ugh. Technology sucks sometimes.
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