I HATE being right

[Angel1111]

Then tell him that you are guilty, insensitive and impatient. Who freakin' cares???!!! You need to get this in your head - the guy is an ass. And I'm not saying that because he's married and cheating. I'm saying it because I can see the red flags just from the things you say about him. And don't tell me he's confused or under stress or any of that other crap. He's. An. Ass. Get a handle on this concept. You are wasting your life.

 

I can promise you this, if the tables were turned - if you were married and he was single - it would be no contest. He would've walked a LONG time ago, sister.

[MistyK]

He's insecure that you will basically just cheat on him like you did on your H with him. So he's afraid to commit to you because it doesn't seem like a good bet.

 

You can't win unless you leave him alone.

 

In fairness, I separated from my husband shortly after the EA started precisely because I didn't want to have to think of myself as a cheater. Interestingly, this makes him MORE nervous (that I did the right thing), because now he just figures I'll leave him. So either way I did things, I'm a losing bet I guess. And, frankly, a large part of it is the age gap - he views me as easily able to get whoever I want (if only I could believe it for myself....) and therefore easily susceptible to when someone "better" comes along.

 

I don't think there's any chance for anyone here to "win" no matter what.

 

I am curious though, do you think I did something wrong at lunch today. Is there anything wrong with that, am I nuts?

[NoIDidn't]

 

I don't think there's any chance for anyone here to "win" no matter what.

 

I am curious though, do you think I did something wrong at lunch today. Is there anything wrong with that, am I nuts?

 

I meant "win" as in you are in a lose-lose situation.

 

I don't think you did anything wrong at lunch. But I know he is going to flip because he's already told you that he doesn't like that.