moet70 Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 Hi I was dating a guy for 6 weeks and it was all going fab! Then he freaked out, ended the relationship advising he needed his space and wanted to be on his own, he looked like he was having a little breakdown. He seemed a completely different person the the happy bright person the week before. He is 37, never had a relationship last longer than 6 months, never lived with a girl, declares he doesn't want to get married or have children, says he can't wait for his flatmate to move out as he wants to live on his own. He has facial/eye tics, and involuntary shoulder shrugging. He is a very good looking guy with lots of mates and is quite social he works in the family business but I get the impression his father and brother "support" him. We have remained friends and even recently went on a holiday together. At easter he had an "episode" where he basically but not in so many words told me he "wasn't normal" wanted to get help, would I help him,that he " freaks out" when it comes to relationships. this follows a period of distance. He is slowly coming out of his latest meltdown, He knows I know something, but we havn't had a "real" discussion about it. We have talked a lot about other people we know with mental health issues and he knows I am very intuitive and supportive. I spend two hours a fortnight with an intellecutally disable woman with autism and asperger and cast of other issues, so he knows I am very supportive of these conditions. I don't know if he has every been diagnosed, if he even knows what he has, I am not sure if he is taking medication, some days he looks like he is, eyes very glazed over. He seeks a lot of solitude and movies seem to be the only leisure activity he has. He watches movies constantly. He tends to be very orderly and anal, lines things up in a row constantly and plans and structures things. I know that when he was about 30 he had had a year off work. So my question is based on all of the above does he have ocd/tourettes and how can I have an open discussion with him where he feels safe - I get the feeling he really wants to talk to me about it, the discussion we had at easter was the closest he has ever come to "fessing" and he said it was a realy hard conversation. We are just friends now, we go to movies and grab a bit every now and then, I am dating others and moving on, but I want to be a friend to him, I don't want to cut him off.. I just want to be there to help him and support him which ever way I can
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