dave22 Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 I started dating this girl a little while ago. The first date was a little awkward at times but she seemed nice and interesting and I kind of liked her. We met again for lunch a few days later and had a good conversation for about an hour and a half. We had another date the next weekend and I had a good time. The conversation was good, although I thought we were both a little cautious I had a feeling that this is something that could grow over time. Well we just had another date today and I did not feel much chemistry at all. The thing is she seems like such a great person, we have a lot of similar values and she fits a lot of what I think I am looking for in a relationship. I am not sure if I am being too cautious after being burnt so many times in the past, or if she is being cautious (she has been divorced). Maybe it was just an off day. I do find that in all my relationships, including friendships, they seem to get better over time as I get to know the person. Should I just be patient and see what happens? Should I forget about it? Is there something I could do to create a bit more chemistry? Is this happening because I am being too cautious? I don't really know what to do.
alpha wizard Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 You sound pretty reluctant to get the relationship in gear. I'd speed it up a bit. Try un-buttoning your shirt a little maybe. Chicks use that trick all the time, you'd be suprised what it will do.
D-Lish Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 Sometimes I think it's hard to explore chemistry when both parties are practicing caution. Try another date, see how it goes. Maybe try and loosen things up a little bit.
Author dave22 Posted June 28, 2009 Author Posted June 28, 2009 I think you guys are right. I am being too cautious. Although it seems she is also. She seems willing to go on dates and talk on the phone and so on, but doesn't seem to want to go any further right now. I would be willing to go slow if she wants, but I am just not sure what she wants.
D-Lish Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 I think you guys are right. I am being too cautious. Although it seems she is also. She seems willing to go on dates and talk on the phone and so on, but doesn't seem to want to go any further right now. I would be willing to go slow if she wants, but I am just not sure what she wants. Have you guys made out yet?
dreamergrl Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 I think you guys need to do something where you both can loosen up and relax more. Not sure what kind of things you like or are into... maybe go have a few cocktails or something. Or something just straight out goofy fun.
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