Cora Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 Okay, so I was thinking about going out tonight. Maybe dinner and a movie. I feel like I'm going stir crazy in this house and I'm tired of staying home alone on the weekends so why not go out alone? I used to do this all the time but people would look at me like I'm crazy or something. I am single and don't have many friends but I still don't want to sit at home bored. My ex used to say to me "wow you would go to the movies by yourself? That's kind of odd...I could never do that." I have always been more of a loner and as sad as it may sound I do actually have fun out by myself....most times at least. So my question is....is this odd? Do you guys ever just go out like to a movie or something by yourself? Am I crazy?
Lyssa Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 So my question is....is this odd? Do you guys ever just go out like to a movie or something by yourself? Am I crazy? I don't find it odd at all. I love spending time by myself sometimes. I am surrounded by people most of the time so some time alone would be really nice. I go to the movies alone - I usually pick a seat that has no one around me so I can have complete silence and just enjoy the movie. I go shopping alone sometimes cause I hate waiting on my friends - I shop like a guy - I like something, I buy it. I even eat by myself at times - with a book or just enjoy the food while people-watch! I don't care what people think about my doing my things by myself!
yeex Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 I plan on going to see some live music tonight alone. Does not bother me. Sometimes I run into people that I know or I try to meet new people. Even if I go see music with friends, we get split up many times and I am standing around by myself anyways for at least part of the night. Haha, your ex said he would never go to the movies by himself? Sorry, that sounds kind of wussy to me.. lol.
Crow9726 Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 I have eaten lunch alone for over 20 years. Usually read the paper or a book...but am just as content to watch others as I enjoy my meal. I go to see movies by myself...go to baseball games...shopping...whatever. I find that my own company is one that I enjoy...lol. Both of my daughters picked up the habit from me. My younger one goes to see every horror movie that comes out...and always goes alone. My older daughter likes to go to concerts alone. She has never met a stranger so usually makes friends at whatever venue she is at. None of us are loners by nature...but understand and relish alone time when the opportunity presents itself.
Lindarose84 Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 Not that odd at all. I've gone to the movies solo tons of times. In fact, I actually hate watching movies with friends because they feel like they must comment on everything. I had this one friend who would come with me to the movies and when something was funny (or at least when she thought it was funny), she would laugh and turn over to look at me and then I would feel like I had to laugh too (if I wasn't already). That got annoying fast. As for going to eat solo, I do that by myself a lot too. No big deal. I actually don't need a book or anything, I just sit, eat and enjoy the food and just people-watch. It's fun. As I've said before, being single is not as bad as people want to believe. Go out and enjoy life! You'll find that you enjoy it more without the crutch of worrying about others and their likes and needs.
CarrieT Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 I've been single for almost a year -- I go to movies, jazz clubs, and restaurants alone all the time. No big problem.
Author Cora Posted June 27, 2009 Author Posted June 27, 2009 Thanks guys! I never really considered it odd either until someone mentioned it to me. But I guess everyone is different. Just wanted to hear others thoughts on the matter. Well, I'm off to a nice evening solo!
v g Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 Some people are uncomfortable to be alone. Sounds like, unlike your ex-, you enjoy your own company. No matter where you are, you're in good company.
loveslife Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 I just went to a movie alone the other day. I eat out alone, shop alone, go on trips alone... on and on. It never even occurs to me that it's odd for me to do those things. Doing things with other people is good - there's the common experience and bonding. But doing things alone is good, too, for other reasons.
Author Cora Posted June 28, 2009 Author Posted June 28, 2009 Thanks for the replies! I think getting out tonight really did me some good. Even though I cried all my makeup off after watching the saddest movie ever lol! I was just going crazy staying in this house. I had a wonderful time out by myself and you know what? I even saw a couple of other people out by themselves as well. So who cares if some of my friends find it odd.
Lyssa Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 Even though I cried all my makeup off after watching the saddest movie ever lol! What movie did you watch? Yeah, it feels good to go out after staying in too long. I'd get sick if I don't go out after 3 days - I literally get sick.
sugarmomma Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 Great book called "quirkyalones". That's me. I can do everything alone except eat alone in a restaurant. Haven't gotten there yet. Movies shopping and most everything else.
Author Cora Posted June 28, 2009 Author Posted June 28, 2009 What movie did you watch? Yeah, it feels good to go out after staying in too long. I'd get sick if I don't go out after 3 days - I literally get sick. I watched My Sisters Keeper. It was a real tear jerker! I don't think there was a dry eye in the place lol. Yeah, I get sick too if I stay in too long. I literally just become depressed.
Author Cora Posted June 28, 2009 Author Posted June 28, 2009 Great book called "quirkyalones". That's me. I can do everything alone except eat alone in a restaurant. Haven't gotten there yet. Movies shopping and most everything else. Thanks! I will definitely check out that book! I haven't gotten to eating out alone yet either. I do every now and then but it still doesn't feel right for some reason lol.
hoping2heal Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 I go do things alone sometimes. I've never gone to dinner alone but that's becuase I'm used to jabbering on and on. I've gone to a movie alone, I have no problem with it. If other people think it's weird, that's their hangup but it isn't mine. I'm perfectly content.
lovebubble Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 i'm an only child so, i'm used to entertaining myself. i love it. i've gone to movies, ate at resturants.. i go shopping by myself all the time. not odd at all.
mortensorchid Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 There's nothing weird about doing things like that by yourself. When I was growing up, my mom tried to tell me that doing things by myself was weird, which I realized was just because she was being anti-social and was trying to encourage me to be just as anti-social as she was. But I digress ... There's no reason you should miss out on things because someone else doesn't want to go with you. It's ok to go out to a movie or even out to dinner or go on a day trip or even a big trip by yourself. Why sit at home if no one else wants to do it? You'll miss out on something otherwise. And so what if it turns out to be a bad time or not what you expected, at least you'll know.
SoulSearch_CO Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 I don't mind doing things alone. Eating out, movies, shopping...whatever. It's not odd.
Sprig Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 There is nothing wrong with you, alone time is nice. I really enjoy being alone too sometimes.
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