Touche Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 In all fairness LB, you started the thread! If its that simple an issue, you shouldn't need advice on it. Just sayin'. Exactly. I'm utterly confused by her last post. It's like she forgot she posted asking about this in the first place. LB, YOU called it a "dilemma." I mean if you're embarrassed now that this was even a "dilemma" or an issue for you, then own up to it instead of pointing the finger at the posters here. You're the one who said you've gone "around and around" on this with your fiance. If that's something to go "around and around" about, well wow. Wait until you're married and have REAL issues to address. What will you do then? And you said he "claims" to have freckles and light skin. Why the use of the word "claims?" See...now I'm picking your original post apart because you sort of asked for it with that outburst. This type of thing worries me about you. Honestly, it really does.
hoping2heal Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 LB, When you see people posting because there is a problem getting children to mesh well with the new spouses children, or there's a sudden death, or someone has gone missing, or someone is hurting over an affair, and then we have you posting about the matching of your rings, TBH it made me go "oh brother". If this is the big issue going on in your relationship, consider yourself lucky and count your blessings.
Art_Critic Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 LB, When you see people posting because there is a problem getting children to mesh well with the new spouses children, or there's a sudden death, or someone has gone missing, or someone is hurting over an affair, and then we have you posting about the matching of your rings, TBH it made me go "oh brother". If this is the big issue going on in your relationship, consider yourself lucky and count your blessings. That's just mean .... Why isn't her thread of equal importance to the posters here ?.. Didn't your mother ever teach you that if you can't say anything nice to someone then you................ ?
Author Lauriebell82 Posted June 28, 2009 Author Posted June 28, 2009 That's just mean .... Why isn't her thread of equal importance to the posters here ?.. Didn't your mother ever teach you that if you can't say anything nice to someone then you................ ? Nah, I already am well aware of member's feelings regarding my posts. I know my thread is important to me and I can't post about anything I want to. That's all that matters.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted June 28, 2009 Author Posted June 28, 2009 Exactly. I'm utterly confused by her last post. It's like she forgot she posted asking about this in the first place. LB, YOU called it a "dilemma." I mean if you're embarrassed now that this was even a "dilemma" or an issue for you, then own up to it instead of pointing the finger at the posters here. You're the one who said you've gone "around and around" on this with your fiance. If that's something to go "around and around" about, well wow. Wait until you're married and have REAL issues to address. What will you do then? And you said he "claims" to have freckles and light skin. Why the use of the word "claims?" See...now I'm picking your original post apart because you sort of asked for it with that outburst. This type of thing worries me about you. Honestly, it really does. So I'm not allowed to post about something minor because it's "not worth it?" Meanwhile others are posting about word association and vegetable growing. Yeah...
Jilly Bean Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 LB - I don't think it's a big deal. My Dad has a wedding ring, but has never worn it. Though I think it did match my Mom's, which was a simple platinum band. But, over the years of service - ha ha!, my Mom has changed and upgraded her engagement ring/wedding bands. She took the solitaire out of the engagement ring, had it resent into a larger yellow gold ring with larger baguettes. And then she got a whole new wedding band entirely. Now, so many years later, she doesn't even wear either ring on a regular basis, as she has so much other jewelry. Point is, even if you get matching bands NOW, chances are probable that you will outgrow the setting, and upgrade/change it one day. So, I think it's fine if freckled finger boy wants to get a different setting. Really matters that you get the ring that you like anyhow! lol
Author Lauriebell82 Posted June 28, 2009 Author Posted June 28, 2009 LB - I don't think it's a big deal. My Dad has a wedding ring, but has never worn it. Though I think it did match my Mom's, which was a simple platinum band. But, over the years of service - ha ha!, my Mom has changed and upgraded her engagement ring/wedding bands. She took the solitaire out of the engagement ring, had it resent into a larger yellow gold ring with larger baguettes. And then she got a whole new wedding band entirely. Now, so many years later, she doesn't even wear either ring on a regular basis, as she has so much other jewelry. Point is, even if you get matching bands NOW, chances are probable that you will outgrow the setting, and upgrade/change it one day. So, I think it's fine if freckled finger boy wants to get a different setting. Really matters that you get the ring that you like anyhow! lol Yeah, his little freckled finger will look very nice with any ring on it. I actually found a nice ring from Kay Jewelers online. I want to get to a smaller thin band so it matches the band on my engagement ring.
Touche Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 So I'm not allowed to post about something minor because it's "not worth it?" Meanwhile others are posting about word association and vegetable growing. Yeah... Huh? Where did I say that? I was responding to your other post...not the ORIGINAL one. The outburst one. Of course you should post anything that's important to you. You missed my whole point unfortunately.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted June 28, 2009 Author Posted June 28, 2009 Huh? Where did I say that? I was responding to your other post...not the ORIGINAL one. The outburst one. Of course you should post anything that's important to you. You missed my whole point unfortunately. No, it wasn't you who said it. I was just frustrated, hense the post.
Touche Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 Yeah, his little freckled finger will look very nice with any ring on it. I actually found a nice ring from Kay Jewelers online. I want to get to a smaller thin band so it matches the band on my engagement ring. Yeah, I'd match it to the engagement ring before I'd try to match it to his...if it works out that they match his, great. If not...no biggie.
Jilly Bean Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 Yeah, his little freckled finger will look very nice with any ring on it. I actually found a nice ring from Kay Jewelers online. I want to get to a smaller thin band so it matches the band on my engagement ring. LOL. Yes, a nice matching band for yourself is a good idea.
Touche Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 No, it wasn't you who said it. I was just frustrated, hense the post. Ok, that's fine.
hoping2heal Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 That's just mean .... Why isn't her thread of equal importance to the posters here ?.. Didn't your mother ever teach you that if you can't say anything nice to someone then you................ ? It's mean? I wasn't trying to be mean, I was being honest. It's very true that when I see people complaining over frivellous issues, as oppose to all the people with heavier issues, I do roll my eyes a little bit. I think people should be greatful for what they have with one another and don't sweat the small stuff. If that makes me mean, well then I'm a self proclaimed meanie. Isn't my opinion of equal importance to the posters here?
Star Gazer Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 So I'm not allowed to post about something minor because it's "not worth it?" Meanwhile others are posting about word association and vegetable growing. Yeah... You made this thread, we didn't. I think the point being made, LB, is that the fact you even started a thread about something like this is concerning. I think what others are saying is that it's not "worth it" to go "around and around" with your fiance and even make an issue out of something as trivial as HIS wedding band. This is a minor, minor detail when you consider the bigger problems you will face once you're married, and you're better suited focusing your energies there than with what goes on his freckled finger.
allina Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 Don't worry LB, not everything will look the way you planned, and that's ok. My ring is a white gold diamond eternity band (I think that's what the style is called) with a center diamond. My wedding band is going to match my engagement ring setting, just without the center stone. My fiance found a wedding band that he loves, it does not match mine at all. I think it's titanium, very masculine and industrial looking. It doesn't match my rings in color, style or shape. I think it's ok.
Land Shark Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 My engagement ring is white gold and I plan on having a white gold wedding band as well. He claims he has freckles and fair skin, therefore yellow gold will look better on his hand. I always thought that wedding rings had to match and look similar. If they are different colors it will look like we aren't married to each other!!!! We have gone round and round with this situation and I'm not sure what to do. Simple solution: you get something to match what he wants.
sb129 Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 LB, I don't think that starting the thread was a problem, but getting mad mid thread when people say things you don't like doesn't garner much sympathy. Let it wash over you!
Author Lauriebell82 Posted June 28, 2009 Author Posted June 28, 2009 LB, I don't think that starting the thread was a problem, but getting mad mid thread when people say things you don't like doesn't garner much sympathy. Let it wash over you! Yeah, well the reason that I got mad is because people were actually saying that starting the thread was a problem and that I shouldn't have done it because my problem was dumb. I can post about whatever I chose, big problem or small.
sb129 Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 Yes, you can, of course you can. The problem isn't "dumb"- I am sure you could have worked it out happily without our input though.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted June 28, 2009 Author Posted June 28, 2009 Yes, you can, of course you can. The problem isn't "dumb"- I am sure you could have worked it out happily without our input though. Of course I could, I was just curious what other people thought of it. That's why I posted. Not because it's a huge issue or source of conflict in my life.
norajane Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 Of course I could, I was just curious what other people thought of it. That's why I posted. Not because it's a huge issue or source of conflict in my life. Maybe it's your writing style, then. Because this most certainly made it seem like it WAS a big issue and a source of conflict: If they are different colors it will look like we aren't married to each other!!!! We have gone round and round with this situation and I'm not sure what to do.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted June 29, 2009 Author Posted June 29, 2009 Maybe it's your writing style, then. Because this most certainly made it seem like it WAS a big issue and a source of conflict: Yeah, re-reading it I made it look like we were fighting about it and we weren't. I over-exaggerated it I suppose. Oh, "round and round" meaning discussion/debate not fighting. Better wording probably would have helped.
Kamille Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 Awww come on folks! Give Laurie a break! She's just so enjoying getting married that she wants to be able to talk about it with us! I mean, we all know how important marrying this man was to Laurie. Laurie, why not also post about the great things happening with your wedding planning?
Art_Critic Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 Laurie, why not also post about the great things happening with your wedding planning? Yeah.. how about some stories about having sex in the dressing room or something.. hahahaha
Kamille Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 Yeah.. how about some stories about having sex in the dressing room or something.. hahahaha Something you're trying to tell us there AC ???
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