Citizen Erased Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 You said that would not sit well with you if Alpha called you so soon ? I think initially its very important to show her your are interested. Once she * gets that * then things get more settled and calm, she wont be wondering . If she has her stuff together and is not playing Alpha . then she will appreciate his chivilary. Sorry, I should have been more clear. It would have annoyed me if he had waited, played all these games etc. That does not sit well with me. When guys wait to contact me in order to follow some stupid rules, it turns me off them. If I'm interested (and it sounds like Susan is), him waiting would only serve to annoy me, not make me more interested in him.
whichwayisup Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 #2 goes against all that alpha believes, so I can understand his apprehension right now. Then again, when it's the right person, who cares who calls who?
Touche Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 #2 goes against all that alpha believes, so I can understand his apprehension right now. Then again, when it's the right person, who cares who calls who? Who cares what he believes. What he believes hasn't been working for him so far, has it? So maybe he should try it a different way and listen to some of us. So are you saying you give advice according to what you think the OP wants to hear or what he'll do? He asked our advice and we're giving the advice that we think we'll bring about the desired results..not what we think he's comfortable with. A turtle never gets anywhere unless he sticks his neck out.
whichwayisup Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 Not all at. He should do number 2 (haha how fitting eh) seeing as it goes against what he believes. He should stick his neck out and take a chance, be abit vunerable.
Touche Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 Not all at. He should do number 2 (haha how fitting eh) seeing as it goes against what he believes. He should stick his neck out and take a chance, be abit vunerable. Exactly. Oh and yeah about number 2. He should be good at doing number 2 by now! ahaha.
butcher's hook Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 I would call her Sunday after she gets back. You are not girlfriend/ boyfriend, what are you going to call her on her trip for? "How's the trip" That seems weird to me. Ask her about the trip when she gets back or text her while on the trip to let her know you are thinking about her but why call her when you know she is away and busy?
butcher's hook Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 And for heaven's sake do NOT wait for her to call you, that it total pssy sht. You are the "alphamale" alphamales do not wait around for women to initiate contact.
pandagirl Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 How about...call her when you feel like it? I don't know, I hate all these games! Both me and the guy I'm dating have been away lot this summer. We're not boyfriend/girlfriend, so we don't communicate while we are out of town, but I certainly wouldn't think it was weird if he did.
Author alphamale Posted July 7, 2009 Author Posted July 7, 2009 I vote for #2 I agree. I vote # 2 and call her Wednesday just to say hi. Not all at. He should do number 2 ok i'll give her a call mid-week just to say hi...thats probably the best way to go. i wouldn't have talked with her for 5 or 6 days so i won't come off desperate but i'll still show i'm interested in her. actually i've already verbally told her i'm interested... or text her she doesn't do texting
runner Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 oh man. no offence, but as a guy, the worst advice i've ever got about dating, were from women. thing is, you gals want us to be this and that, but when we are, you totally ignore us but if you must do something like a number 2, a flirty/funny text should be enough to let her know she's on your mind.
runner Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 she doesn't do texting if she has the function but just doesn't use it, text her anyways if not, wait till she gets back and go drinking with your buddies in the meantime.
Surfer Dude Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 This is all SO DAMN WRONG. First dude, stop taking dating advice from women because they don't know what the hell they're talking about. It's societal programming talking through them. Susan probably also says she likes "a nice guy to take her on a nice dinner" but once that happens she is disgusted with such spineless guys (no offense to you). You screwed yourself over by supplicating and spending sh*tloads of money on boring interview-type dinner dates (or should I say auditions). Dinners are reserved for women you are already having positive, respectful and intimate relationships with. The rest are just friends and we don't try to buy our friends with money and dinners! That's what all other lame guys do, and we don't have to be like them, right? Here's a good link for you, about what NOT to do when trying to date a woman: http://www.pickupguide.com/badpu1.htm The rest of stuff on that site is just gold Here's a quote: you liked her PUSSY, she liked your MONEY and potentially your PERSONALITY. that is a MIS-MATCH. she will NEVER see you as a SEXUAL MAN until she admires your SEXUAL PROWESS instead of your WALLET. Here's how to do it properly: 1. Call her, get her to come to a bar in your area 2. Set up a meeting for something like 9-10pm 3. Have a drink 4. Extract her from there back to your place for more drinks 5. Seal the deal So what did we learn today? NO DINNERS BEFORE SEX.
Art_Critic Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 .... I just fell off my chair.... Amateurs read that crap....
Touche Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 .... I just fell off my chair.... Amateurs read that crap.... I know, right? What nonsense. Oh and I noticed you totally ignored me Alpha. I'm the one who originally said number two and you quoted everyone but me. I knew you would ignore me. And I'm a big baby so I'm not going to post on your dating threads anymore. Good luck! Oh and if you listen to those PUA types, you'll be screwed. That crap may work on some of the 20 something girls but it will not work on a woman who isn't into drama in her relationships.
carhill Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 Hey, OP, stopping in to suggest you call her today. Just an instinct. Good luck!
Author alphamale Posted July 7, 2009 Author Posted July 7, 2009 if she has the function but just doesn't use it, text her anyways she doesn't have text messaging enabled on her cell otherwise i would have used that function. it would have been perfect. Here's a quote: Here's how to do it properly: 1. Call her, get her to come to a bar in your area 2. Set up a meeting for something like 9-10pm 3. Have a drink 4. Extract her from there back to your place for more drinks 5. Seal the deal So what did we learn today? NO DINNERS BEFORE SEX. Oh and I noticed you totally ignored me Alpha. I'm the one who originally said number two and you quoted everyone but me. I knew you would ignore me. And I'm a big baby so I'm not going to post on your dating threads anymore.. whatever you big baby Hey, OP, stopping in to suggest you call her today. Just an instinct. Good luck! naah....maybe Wed or Thurs
lora22 Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 I didn't read this entire thread, just skimmed over it for the most part...but I'm kind of confused why anyone would adivse you to ignore Susan (or why you would be considering it) when if you did that, and Susan posted on here asking for advice, literally everyone would be telling her "he's just not that interested. Move on. See other people. Don't contact him, let him contact you.":confused:
Touche Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 I didn't read this entire thread, just skimmed over it for the most part...but I'm kind of confused why anyone would adivse you to ignore Susan (or why you would be considering it) when if you did that, and Susan posted on here asking for advice, literally everyone would be telling her "he's just not that interested. Move on. See other people. Don't contact him, let him contact you.":confused: Exactly. Oh and Alph...
Author alphamale Posted July 7, 2009 Author Posted July 7, 2009 Exactly. Oh and Alph... i'm going to go by my heart and my feelings and not what you fools say...thats what has messed this whole thing up, i'm second-guessing myself because of this thread.
Touche Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 i'm going to go by my heart and my feelings and not what you fools say...thats what has messed this whole thing up, i'm second-guessing myself because of this thread. ok, we'll be here for you to pick up the pieces.
butcher's hook Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 Here's a good link for you, about what NOT to do when trying to date a woman: http://www.pickupguide.com/badpu1.htm The rest of stuff on that site is just gold Here's a quote: Here's how to do it properly: 1. Call her, get her to come to a bar in your area 2. Set up a meeting for something like 9-10pm 3. Have a drink 4. Extract her from there back to your place for more drinks 5. Seal the deal So what did we learn today? NO DINNERS BEFORE SEX. :lmao::lmao: What a crock of sht. That crap only works on hamster brained women who will spread their legs for every jerk who shows interest. And the types of guys who do that crap lose interest in the woman as soon as she falls into the hamster brain category. Surfer Dude you have a lot of growing up to do my friend. I am with Runner call her when she gets back, you already spoke to her what the heck are you going to call her for while she is away? You don't even know just how intersted she is. She already knows you like her, you gonna blow your load on her in one go? That seems kind of whimpy to me.
Author alphamale Posted July 7, 2009 Author Posted July 7, 2009 Surfer Dude you have a lot of growing up to do my friend. indeed... I am with Runner call her when she gets back, you already spoke to her what the heck are you going to call her for while she is away? yea that sounds good too, unfortuantely i already told her i'd call her while shes in NJ. she's leaving today and returning Sunday so i sort of HAVE to call her during that time.
burning 4 revenge Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 you should make a voodoo doll and call the voodoo doll while Susan is in NJ
Author alphamale Posted July 7, 2009 Author Posted July 7, 2009 you should make a voodoo doll and call the voodoo doll while Susan is in NJ that wouldn't work as i'd have to make a very small functioning voodoo cell phone
butcher's hook Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 yea that sounds good too, unfortuantely i already told her i'd call her while shes in NJ. she's leaving today and returning Sunday so i sort of HAVE to call her during that time. Oh ok ok then you have to. I really want this one to work out for you, you seem to really into her!! Was she happy or responsive when you told her you would call? Stop second guessing yourself. That's the problem with opening this type of thing out to all the different opinions we have you end up more confused than when you begun. What was your thought when you first posted this? Do that.
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