Mary3 Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 susan just called me from NJ. we talked for about 25 minutes. she said, and i quote, "i was thinking about you" *swoons* She was really thinking of how it would feeeeel when you devour her .............
Author alphamale Posted July 13, 2009 Author Posted July 13, 2009 oh i forgot to give my update. i talked with susan sunday nite and we talked for 20 minutes or so. no romantic talk just regular stuff. we're getting together on friday nite which would make it two and a half weeks since our first date. that must be a record for me for length between 1st and 2nd dates this second date should be the determining factor as to whether we press on with this whole thing. there are some issues concerning the distance (she lives around 35 miles from me and in chicago that is a HUGE distance), also she has a disabled brother living with her AND she has a stressful job. she seems like a workaholic too and she also likes to go to bed by 9pm and wake up at 4:30am - even on weekends. ...i think its cause she has no social life but i'm not sure. but all these things can be worked out if there is a good connection between us. we'll see.
Author alphamale Posted July 13, 2009 Author Posted July 13, 2009 basically i'm going to keep my options open for now.
Touche Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 oh i forgot to give my update. i talked with susan sunday nite and we talked for 20 minutes or so. no romantic talk just regular stuff. we're getting together on friday nite which would make it two and a half weeks since our first date. that must be a record for me for length between 1st and 2nd dates this second date should be the determining factor as to whether we press on with this whole thing. there are some issues concerning the distance (she lives around 35 miles from me and in chicago that is a HUGE distance), also she has a disabled brother living with her AND she has a stressful job. she seems like a workaholic too and she also likes to go to bed by 9pm and wake up at 4:30am - even on weekends. ...i think its cause she has no social life but i'm not sure. but all these things can be worked out if there is a good connection between us. we'll see. I tend to agree with the above but it's just not always the case. Please give it a chance even if you're not sure where things stand after only the second date. Just enjoy each other and get to know each other. It could be you won't know whether you want to "press on" until the 3rd or 4th or 5th date. Don't make up your mind now that you will have your answers after this 2nd date, ok?
Ariadne Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 she seems like a workaholic too and she also likes to go to bed by 9pm and wake up at 4:30am - even on weekends. ... She's probably like that because she doesn't have anybody to help her with the bills and has to take care of the brother. Most people really don't want to work so hard. Try and see if you have a deeper connection with her than those things. Good luck Alpha! I hope you find true love.
Author alphamale Posted July 14, 2009 Author Posted July 14, 2009 It could be you won't know whether you want to "press on" until the 3rd or 4th or 5th date. Don't make up your mind now that you will have your answers after this 2nd date, ok? ok She's probably like that because she doesn't have anybody to help her with the bills and has to take care of the brother. Most people really don't want to work so hard. yea i didn't really think of that but she's definitely a "career women" Good luck Alpha! I hope you find true love.
Mary3 Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 If things work out romantically hopefully you can be her * alarm clock* ~~ waking her up at 2 am for some lovin '
Author alphamale Posted July 14, 2009 Author Posted July 14, 2009 If things work out romantically hopefully you can be her * alarm clock* ~~ waking her up at 2 am for some lovin ' thats gonna be hard with two big dogs and a disabled brother in her crib the more i'm thinkin' about this situation the more i think it may not work - too many "roadblocks"
Citizen Erased Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 thats gonna be hard with two big dogs and a disabled brother in her crib the more i'm thinkin' about this situation the more i think it may not work - too many "roadblocks" No!!!! Stop thinking about it. Just let things happen alpha. You're talking yourself out of it when you really like this woman, and you know it.
Island Girl Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 thats gonna be hard with two big dogs and a disabled brother in her crib the more i'm thinkin' about this situation the more i think it may not work - too many "roadblocks" Why? Does she live in a studio? It is the same thing as living with a roommate Alpha. I'm sure she has her own room and does her own thing. And as far as the dogs go...well you ARE Alpha so they shouldn't be a problem!!!
Mary3 Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 thats gonna be hard with two big dogs and a disabled brother in her crib the more i'm thinkin' about this situation the more i think it may not work - too many "roadblocks" Alpha is it possible you don't feel the spark as much because of the workaholic and the distance stuff ?
Sweetcheripie Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 No!!!! Stop thinking about it. Just let things happen alpha. You're talking yourself out of it when you really like this woman, and you know it. Very wise words!
Author alphamale Posted July 14, 2009 Author Posted July 14, 2009 Alpha is it possible you don't feel the spark as much because of the workaholic and the distance stuff ? maybe, its probably just more that i haven't seen her in two weeks. i'm just trying to figure out how we're going to handle this if we both decide to become an "item".
Citizen Erased Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 maybe, its probably just more that i haven't seen her in two weeks. i'm just trying to figure out how we're going to handle this if we both decide to become an "item". You've been on one date alpha! The second date will not lead to a walk down the aisle anytime soon. Stop thinking about this and just enjoy spending time with her.
Author alphamale Posted July 14, 2009 Author Posted July 14, 2009 You've been on one date alpha! The second date will not lead to a walk down the aisle anytime soon. Stop thinking about this and just enjoy spending time with her. no i don't care about the "walk down the aisle". i live with my brother and she lives with her brother so how are we going to get the sex part in? i can't afford a fancy hotel every weekend.... i don't know. why can't i just find someone who lives near me and lives alone and isn't married to their job?
Sweetcheripie Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 gosh i feel so depressed You are overthinking this one and sounding like .... A GIRL! Go on a second date!! Have fun! The logistics of sex will work out! You had some great chemistry and that doesn't come along often. Enjoy it and don't freak out.
Island Girl Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 I echo those here who say you are over thinking all of this Alpha. It has been several days since you were with her and that is starting to effect you because that "high" is fading. Go on the date and just relax. Enjoy it. Because your brother lives with you - you can't have sex at your house? In your own room? That part figures itself out - where there is a will there is a way. Just relax and see how things go. You are stressing over things that aren't even an issue right now.
carhill Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 I'm starting to wonder if this screenname is really accurate. Go with the flow dude. I'm more 'girly' than most LS males and you're starting to annoy me
Island Girl Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 I'm starting to wonder if this screenname is really accurate. Go with the flow dude. I'm more 'girly' than most LS males and you're starting to annoy me Girly carhill!! :laugh: Alpha, seriously, you have to step back and laugh at how much you are in your own head about this right now. I have never seen you posting like this. You must really like her to search for these reasons why you can't be together - and over think them into actual problems. You are Alpha!! You can handle any of it!
Touche Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 Alpha is it possible you don't feel the spark as much because of the workaholic and the distance stuff ? yeah, right! No!!!! Stop thinking about it. Just let things happen alpha. You're talking yourself out of it when you really like this woman, and you know it. Yep. maybe, its probably just more that i haven't seen her in two weeks. i'm just trying to figure out how we're going to handle this if we both decide to become an "item". Bull. no i don't care about the "walk down the aisle". i live with my brother and she lives with her brother so how are we going to get the sex part in? i can't afford a fancy hotel every weekend.... i don't know. why can't i just find someone who lives near me and lives alone and isn't married to their job? You don't live alone. I'm starting to wonder if this screenname is really accurate. Go with the flow dude. I'm more 'girly' than most LS males and you're starting to annoy me Yep, sorry, bro. Have to agree. Even B4R I think now finally lives on his own. This is messed up. You're how old? 44, right? You shouldn't have to worry about taking a date to a hotel. What's wrong with this picture? Man up and be a REAL alphaman will you?
Author alphamale Posted July 14, 2009 Author Posted July 14, 2009 Man up and be a REAL alphaman will you? i'm turning into a lump of jello...pretty soon y'all will be calling me "cali-alpha" oh woe is me
Touche Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 i'm turning into a lump of jello...pretty soon y'all will be calling me "cali-alpha" oh woe is me ahaha! That was actually quite funny. I can't stand that pseudo cali man person. What a fake! You just can't turn into that. I have higher expectations for my brother here.
Lizzie60 Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 i'm turning into a lump of jello...pretty soon y'all will be calling me "cali-alpha" oh woe is me or Alpha-bits.. Relax..
burning 4 revenge Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 i'm turning into a lump of jello...pretty soon y'all will be calling me "cali-alpha" oh woe is me I think it was always a facade When it comes down to it youre all femme and soft inside....not that theres anything wrong with that Hell Im more ALpha and Ive hung out in tranny bars
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