magests74 Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 My boyfriend and I parted ways just over 3 weeks ago. It was dignified and pretty much withoutdrama. he was just unable to give me the time I needed and did not make me a priority. I patted him on the knee and told him I was going to go. No hug no nothing. Not a single email, text or phone call. Is this normal? Sometimes it feels healthy and other times I ache to call him. Do you all think he is tempted to call me or has forgotten all about me. I'm havng a really rough few days and could use your input. Pathetic I kow. My hope is that in a coupe months we can meet up and at least there may be less anger and sadness on my part. perhaps closure or just wishfull thinking on my part. PLEASE HELP
NiceGuy4Ever Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 Break ups are always hard and it's not pathetic. You will feel like calling him, you will feel like you miss him, you might even regret what you did, but the point is to move beyond those feelings and move on. I'm pretty sure he does have those same thoughts but it is better to give yourself time to heal before any contact is re-established. Hope this helps
boogieboy Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 My boyfriend and I parted ways just over 3 weeks ago. It was dignified and pretty much withoutdrama. he was just unable to give me the time I needed and did not make me a priority. I patted him on the knee and told him I was going to go. No hug no nothing. Not a single email, text or phone call. Is this normal? Sometimes it feels healthy and other times I ache to call him. Do you all think he is tempted to call me or has forgotten all about me. I'm havng a really rough few days and could use your input. Pathetic I kow. My hope is that in a coupe months we can meet up and at least there may be less anger and sadness on my part. perhaps closure or just wishfull thinking on my part. PLEASE HELP He apparently knows what hes doing and knows better than to call you, since he wont give you the time you want. He's smart to totally cut you off. Since he knows what hes doing, in a couple months if you try to call him he wont answer. So unless you plan on calling him to say you want to try again, you have nothing to say that he wants to hear. This is your closure. You didnt get what you wanted, you bailed out, THAT is the only closure you get.
sugarmomma Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 Sounds like he wasn't that into you. Let it go. Just trust the grief process and try not to act out. NC is the best route.
Island Girl Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 NC is the best route. And you did the best thing you could do which is walk away from an unfulfilling relationship. You tried to address the problem and your ex refused to make accommodations for your needs. You have made room in your life for a better guy who is a better fit to come into it. But that has left a hole there that you just aren't used to anymore. You are used to having it preoccupied with thoughts (most of which were angst filled at him not making you a priority) about him and the relationship. But THAT was a waste of time and energy. It is a good thing that you walked. Too often these patterns repeat and repeat until you are willing to demand more for yourself and see that you really deserve better. If it happens often enough or for long enough it feels "normal" and therefore when you found someone just like him (who put you at the end of the list, was careless with your feelings, and selfish) then you'd get stuck like glue. But you're smarter than that. So now you can heal and prepare for the next time love walks in and I'm sure you'll make sure you're treated right. The only thing the wrong guy does really well is keep the right one away. Don't slip. Realize there will be some days that are harder than others and power through them. NC. There is a NC Buddy thread here on Loveshack too if you need one.
waitingpatiently Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 Trust me...you did the right thing! I broke up with my boyfriend dec 08', and ran right back to him because I thought I made a big mistake. The only mistake I made was returning to the same ol bullcrap, and after a few months he broke up with me! Don't make the mistake I made. I know it's hard, but just go through the healing process and you'll be back on your feet soon enough. He did me the biggest favor by ending it, because I was going to break up with him again anyway! Now he's trying to come back to me. Umm not gonna happen! lol 2 months later, and I couldn't be happier!!!!
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