Irrational?

[tooinlove]

So I don't know if this is just really bothering me because I just got my period, but you tell me if I'm worrying for nothing. So my SO and try to talk as much as possible everyday since we've started this LDR a couple weeks ago. He just got a full-time job at Walgreens and started yesterday. He called me on one of his breaks and when he got home so we could talk. This morning he called me for a minute telling me he was off to work and I left him a sweet text telling him to call me on his break, but he never did and his shift is almost over. I'm pretty hurt that he could not even call during one of his 3 breaks for a few minutes when I specifically asked him to and I haven't really talked to him yet today. Am I overreacting? I don't know. I just really miss him and I would without a doubt call him if he wanted me to on my break. I just feel like I'm into it more than he is and that hurts. I don't know. What do you think?

[AdamO]

The first days on a new job can be quite stressful since you usually want to make a good first impression and a lot of things are new to you, this is probably the reason for his actions. And eventhough you recently initiated a LDR which normally gives you an increased need of attention, my advise would be to overlook his actions for a couple of days and then, if theres no change in his behaviour, let him know how you feel. Cause i doubt the lack of contact between you today compared to yesterday alone really tells you anything, the timespan isn't long enough to draw any conclusions. Wish you both all the best though!

[Island Girl]

Am I overreacting? I don't know.

 

Yes. You are overreacting.

 

 

I just really miss him and I would without a doubt call him if he wanted me to on my break. I just feel like I'm into it more than he is and that hurts. I don't know. What do you think?

 

Okay. You need to take a step back.

 

You don't know what his day was like. What his breaks were like or what was going on during them.

 

You will talk to him tonight.

 

Really you should have things going on in your life too.

Believe me I know (I KNOW) what it is to miss someone.

I know how hard it is transitioning to LD.

But it does not help either of you to become more dependent on each other for constant reinforcement or responsibility for each other's happiness.

 

He is your boyfriend. He still loves you even if he goes to work and is at work doing whatever all day long without calling (or texting).

He is just being responsible and doing his job for the day.

 

You should have things filling your time as well. Friends, hobbies, movies, books, family, etc. are all parts of your own life you need to do and keep doing so you will be healthy mentally and in turn keep your relationship healthy.