CarrieT Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 It is kinda sad; one of my Gay Boys lost his partner ten years ago. I have known him for fifteen years and was there when his partner died of AIDS. In those ten years, my friend has gone through some serious life changes and struggles; lost his father, lost his job, etc. He has been unemployed for over a year and survives on a stipend from his father's estate. Now in his early 50s, he hasn't had a stable relationship in a decade and has few prospects (although he is far from unattractive). Being somewhat of a perpetual complainer, he doesn't have a lot of friends and so I hear the brunt of "I have no friends, life sucks, I'm so lonely, etc...." I have suggested volunteer work, which he has done (but still not made friends). He has taken life coaching classes and gets depressed when his coach suggests he wear something other than black; "like I can afford to go buy new clothes!" It gets really old and my only consolation is that he lives on the other side of the country from me, so I don't actually spend time with him. But needing some virtual assistant work, I have hired him to do work for me since he's unemployed. He is a good worker, too! (He used to be my boss!) How do you guys deals with a Drooper Drawers?
whichwayisup Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 He's playing the victim and the martyr. Enough already! If he is a really good close friend then you need to give him a loving yet firm kick in the behind! He needs counselling or something because he's not enjoying life and he's got a pity party going on inside his head.
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