eroto Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 I am 31, and I first met this 46 year old guy 2 weeks ago on a lunch date. He has an adopted kid that is 11 years old. The night of the lunch date, he sent me an email saying that he enjoyed the time together and hoped we could do it again. I responded saying I enjoyed the time as well, and followed with another email 2 weeks later suggesting to go out again for lunch or dinner on either the 28th or the July 4th weekend. He responded to me the next day earlier morning, right before he headed to a trip to his family, telling me that he did not have anything yet on the 29th but he will be out of town on the July 4th weekend. He said he would see when he can find a sitter when he got back to town. So when he came back to town and shot me an email telling me he was back and asked me to shoot him a note. I did, and he asked me "if [he] can get a sitter on [this] Saturday night would like to do something". I had a prior commitment on this Saturday which is the 27th, and i told him what the commitment was and told him I could make it Friday or Sunday. He said he had plans with his kid already on both days. I then asked him "Would you like to have lunch with me on Saturday? I am free til 6". It has been 2 days and he has not responded. All conversations above were in emails. Did I come across as brushing him off? What should I do?
Maxis Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 I am 31, and I first met this 46 year old guy 2 weeks ago on a lunch date. He has an adopted kid that is 11 years old. The night of the lunch date, he sent me an email saying that he enjoyed the time together and hoped we could do it again. I responded saying I enjoyed the time as well, and followed with another email 2 weeks later suggesting to go out again for lunch or dinner on either the 28th or the July 4th weekend. He responded to me the next day earlier morning, right before he headed to a trip to his family, telling me that he did not have anything yet on the 29th but he will be out of town on the July 4th weekend. He said he would see when he can find a sitter when he got back to town. So when he came back to town and shot me an email telling me he was back and asked me to shoot him a note. I did, and he asked me "if [he] can get a sitter on [this] Saturday night would like to do something". I had a prior commitment on this Saturday which is the 27th, and i told him what the commitment was and told him I could make it Friday or Sunday. He said he had plans with his kid already on both days. I then asked him "Would you like to have lunch with me on Saturday? I am free til 6". It has been 2 days and he has not responded. All conversations above were in emails. Did I come across as brushing him off? What should I do? I don't really think you brushed him off personally, since you did offer an alternative time due to scheduling conflicts. It's the 26th though, if he does not reply by tonight, I would suggest you make other plans instead of waiting for it though. If he's really interested, he'll try and make another date with you at some point. Oh, he also did say he was open the 29th, so that could be a possible reschedule time? Just throwing some suggestions out there.
Author eroto Posted June 26, 2009 Author Posted June 26, 2009 No, he did not say he was free on 29th. He originally responded with a "Perhaps next week" when he said he was occupied on both tonite and sunday. Then I suggested lunch tomorrow, which I got no response of
Maxis Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 No, he did not say he was free on 29th. He originally responded with a "Perhaps next week" when he said he was occupied on both tonite and sunday. Then I suggested lunch tomorrow, which I got no response of Oh that's my mistake then. I thought him saying he hadn't planned anything for the 29th yet meant he was free. My bad. Anyhow, just wait a little more and if there's nothing by tonight, assume he's not able to. If you want to pursue it further after that, you can send him another message. If not, well, then don't. I dunno what else to tell you besides that.
Trialbyfire Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 eroto, I don`t think you did anything wrong. What I do think is that he`s a low interest guy or has more than one thing going. I wouldn`t do anything now. The ball`s in his court. If he doesn`t respond to your suggested lunch or cops out, time to wander off.
Author eroto Posted June 26, 2009 Author Posted June 26, 2009 It was my typo, actually. I meant to type 28, but i typed 29. I do plan to send him an email later this afternoon to reiterate my interest of lunch tomorrow, and suggest maybe we plan something together for later if he is not available. What do you guys think?
Trialbyfire Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 No, don`t chase him anymore with more emails. It will make you come across as pushy or desperate.
Star Gazer Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 The night of the lunch date, he sent me an email saying that he enjoyed the time together and hoped we could do it again. I responded saying I enjoyed the time as well... That left the ball in his court. But you didn't leave it there, you chased after it: ...and followed with another email 2 weeks later... He didn't contact you for 2 weeks after you left the ball with him. He sounds very, very low interest. I'd stop contacting him. He knows how to reach you, if he ever decides to put in some real effort.
Author eroto Posted June 27, 2009 Author Posted June 27, 2009 That left the ball in his court. But you didn't leave it there, you chased after it: He didn't contact you for 2 weeks after you left the ball with him. He sounds very, very low interest. I'd stop contacting him. He knows how to reach you, if he ever decides to put in some real effort. I was clearly upset when I was typing it... It was actually 2 days. I sent him an email 2 days after i told him i had a good time as well and asked him out
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