Lucky555 Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 Have you had success or what do you all think? So I'm not a person who just choses a guy based on his picture and information. I just like the person to person contact. Its really hard for me to even put my information online because I am skeptical of it. Oh ya the guy was meeting this weekend at a party with a friend is off, my friends says he is a total player and doesn't want to go. Since i have never met this guy before I will not be going by myself. I usually consider what people have to say and keep it mind but i let actions of the person take place before i start judging. So this online dating thing is getting to sound good, she met her boyfriend on a site and they have been together for almost a year! However, I am not going to post my pic on a dating site and I am scared to meet anyone off from these sites. What are your tips for online dating if I give it a try?
bella16 Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 I never tried any actual dating websites, setup just for dating. I will tell my story anyway since it kinda relates... I met my current bf on myspace...something I NEVER thought would happen! I'm 23, and he will be 30 soon. I saw his pic (he is so sexy), sent him a request, and next minute we were messaging eachother for days. Finally exchanged numbers. We would text all day everyday and just get to know eachother. The 1st time we ever spoke on the phone I was so nervous...but as soon as I heard his voice it was like all my nervousness dissappeared. It did not feel weird at all. We set up a date to meet (valentines day) and the next 2 weeks we kept txting and speaking over the phone. The day of our first date, I was again so nervous...never done this before, I didn't know what I was doing. But we've been talking for about 4 weeks so it felt like I had already knew him. We met up somewhere local and he had the evening all planned out...it couldn't have been more perfect, especially since it was Valentines Day! When I 1st laid eyes on him...I was totally blown away. He was more gorgeous than his pics...he was such a gentlemen (and still is after 4 months), and I just felt completely safe and comfortable with him. I fell in love with this man after 3 months of being exclusive. We are going through a rough patch right now...but we are going to talk it out. I know how we both feel for one another, and nothing is ever perfect. I can honestly sit here and say after knowing him for almost 6 months and being together for 4 months, I really know that I've found "the one". I was in a 4 year relationship before, and I never felt this way for my ex, that I do for this man. Some people just KNOW. I never thought it would be someone I met over myspace though...that is why everything happens for a reason... You should consider it...it wouldnt hurt!
carhill Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 Why not post a picture? Do you have pictures on the internet? It's really no big deal. IMO, a photograph puts context to the words. What if a man on a dating site contacted you and he had no photographs? What would be your response? My tips would be to keep expectations low and use such sites for making contact only. Move to meeting in the real world as quickly as possible. To me, it would be no different that meeting a LS'er in the real world. Who we are here is who we are online. Our real world persona may be similar or different, as may chemistry. The only way to know is to push the electrons out of the way and get to the person. BTW, by 'expectations', I mean expectations of results beyond any random meeting. Keep emotional and time investment low. Anything that is healthy stands the test of time Lastly, ignore responses which do not seem personal; IOW, canned responses. You're worth more effort than that. Of those personalized responses, take the time to read them and the man's profile and decide whether a positive response is indicated. If not, politely thank them for their interest and decline future contact. Don't leave them hanging. Of the remaining positives, arrange real world meeting(s) as quickly as possible. If you're interested in dating, you need to be available for dating. It's a choice. Good luck
BobSacamento Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 It can't hurt to look. Just be careful. If you meet make sure it's in a public place. Be prepared to have to weed through a few perverts. Post a pic and you will get more responses. Not having a pic makes you look like a person cheating on someone.
pandagirl Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 I've had a couple positive experiences dating online. I've messaged with a lot, but have only met up with a handful. I'm selective. I don't do it often, and I like to make sure there is some sort of rapport via email beforehand. If it feels like we would get along, I meet them!
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