Thomas X Forever Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 By the thoughts of your ex being with someone else, doing the things you did with them? Happens every single time I close my eyes. God, I love this feeling. /end sarcasm
Crow9726 Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 Me...on a friggin' daily basis...and she's been gone for over 10 months. Yet...every single night she is the one I think about...and again in the morning when I wake up...even if I've been dreaming of her. I can vaguely remember why we aren't together...but tend to remember the good times and good things with crystal clarity. It's worse than cancer...been eaten alive from the inside out...and I can't find a cure.
hopesndreams Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 This is stuff I do not want to think about, wish I didn't read what you wrote. Boo hoo. He's with her now, he works with her. He goes home with her. He takes her to get-togethers with friends that used to be my friends. Summer vacation is just around the corner. Wonder where they will go. *sigh* gee thx Thomas.
Author Thomas X Forever Posted June 26, 2009 Author Posted June 26, 2009 Damn crow, you sound just like me. Except I haven't been broken up that long. Welcome to the club hopesndreams; It's pretty lonely and edgy here in this mentality.
You'reasian Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 I'm actually happy for my ex-es, if they're happy. I would hope they are doing well and if they've found someone they love, it would make me think alot better about them. Similarly, I would feel for them if they were not doing well.
scienceguy Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 Yeah, I had that feeling too, about three or four months before my ex and I broke up. It was only a suspicion then, but it was absolutely crushing when I realized I was right. It was really bizarre to see a lot of emotionally intimate things that we'd share be shifted to another guy while we were still together. I don't know how to deal with those feelings though.
You'reasian Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 Yeah, I had that feeling too, about three or four months before my ex and I broke up. It was only a suspicion then, but it was absolutely crushing when I realized I was right. It was really bizarre to see a lot of emotionally intimate things that we'd share be shifted to another guy while we were still together. I don't know how to deal with those feelings though. I suppose I've got enough time and distance from them that I appreciate the memory of what was and am now happy for them wherever they currently are (ideally doing well?) Anyone else?
CaliGuy Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 The funny thing is, the guy my ex is with now has to put up with her constant whining, crying and other crap. That, for sure, I will not miss. Oh and she smokes. I don't miss that either. YUCK.
You'reasian Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 You're crazy, asian Yep Crazy because I'm happy for my ex-es? I think that's actually healthy and sane. I want the best for them, even though the feelings may not be mutual.
scienceguy Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 I suppose I've got enough time and distance from them that I appreciate the memory of what was and am now happy for them wherever they currently are (ideally doing well?) Anyone else? Well, I'm not the type to be jealous or possessive. But when somebody treats me with zero respect, it's hard for me to feel good about them. I'm not going to waste time hating them, but I certainly don't have happy thoughts about her as well. Then again, the relationship I'm mentioning is the only one where something like that has happened. Hm...
EmptyPromises Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 ME everyyydayy.. it makes me so sick . i had a dream last night about him hooking up with someone else and i woke up ran to the bathroom and threw up ugh
asuman Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 ME everyyydayy.. it makes me so sick . i had a dream last night about him hooking up with someone else and i woke up ran to the bathroom and threw up ugh Isn't this a good kind of pain? It forces you to let go, now, and that's good! Contrast that with me. Look at the last thread I started. I'm still struggling to force myself to give up hope! Hope keeps popping back into my head. This is all Obama's fault.
Author Thomas X Forever Posted June 26, 2009 Author Posted June 26, 2009 Asuman that's a good way to put it... that type of pain forces you to let go... It doesn't always do that. Not to me, anyway, mostly because I suffer from traits of dependent personality disorder, so I forever long for what I lost. And it makes me insane thinking someone else has it. Wonderful life
You'reasian Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 Asuman that's a good way to put it... that type of pain forces you to let go... It doesn't always do that. Not to me, anyway, mostly because I suffer from traits of dependent personality disorder, so I forever long for what I lost. And it makes me insane thinking someone else has it. Wonderful life You've got to let go. I'm perfectly fine with my ex-es hooking up. Its natural. I hope they are happy? If they're like you, then I'd be concerned for them, but they're living their life.
asuman Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 Asuman that's a good way to put it... that type of pain forces you to let go... It doesn't always do that. Not to me, anyway, mostly because I suffer from traits of dependent personality disorder, so I forever long for what I lost. And it makes me insane thinking someone else has it. Wonderful life Forever? Unless you've only had one girlfriend ever, we know that isn't true. It still takes a long time, even when your ex is dating someone else. I just think that an ex being with someone else shortens the total amount of time. It is an emotional shock, and as much as your emotions find excuses around reality sometimes, it's really really hard for them to find excuses around another man in her life. If not impossible.
Ilovehim Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 My ex has a new girlfriend..don't know for how long he's had her..i just found out two months ago..Umm yeah...me and him used to be best friends, we were together for 2 years..every second of those two years we were with each other...i was his first everything...he had only kissed a couple girls before me and that was it..i loved his family and believe me when i say i wanted to marry this guy... then we broke up like almost a year ago....and yes i hate that he is in love now with her...but i stay away from thinkin about it...because as i said its been a year!!! jus wish i could move on...and tom i hear u on the whole thing about longin for the loss for a long time..im like that too...it sucks
Beeotch Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 By the thoughts of your ex being with someone else, doing the things you did with them? Happens every single time I close my eyes. God, I love this feeling. /end sarcasm I guess its because I am not aware of him seeing anyone else...and I don't try to find out or think about it. He has issues though so I do know that ANY woman he dates...eventually problems are going to arise because of his unresolved issues so he will never have a fulfilling, lasting relationship until he deals with it. So I guess I don't feel jealous or bad for any woman he is seeing/will see because I know how it is going to turn out
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