Dasilva Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 I was just wondering if anybody has ever showed their partner the post they had made, and what the people at loveshack thought about their situations?
Lizzie60 Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 I was just wondering if anybody has ever showed their partner the post they had made, and what the people at loveshack thought about their situations? I'm sure some people have done that.. some people said they have done that.. (not true) and some who never did and never will. Don't assume that because people say they are showing the posts, that it means they are actually showing them the posts.. I would bet some SO don't even know their W/H are passing most of their time on LS. . I'm single.. so no problem...
hopesndreams Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 Nope, and never will. I'd be horrified beyond belief if he ever read the stuff I wrote on here, mostly because I made public his full of hot air emails that he only intended for me to read. Too bad for him though, I'm a sharing kind of person.
Ronni_W Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 I can see a couple of situations that could cause people to show their posts and responses: 1. If they get to say, "See? Everyone agrees with me. I'm right and you're wrong!" 2. If they can't be bothered to crystallize their own thoughts and opinions, and formulate their own sentences. "Here, read this. Then you'll know what I mean and how I'm feeling." Probably other "reasons" to do it, but those are the two that easily come to mind.
You'reasian Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 Nope. I'm straight forward with women I meet - whether there's great possibilities between us or not.
Heaven11 Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 I'm thinking about showing him mine. I'm brand new on here. I've bottled up feelings 4 almost 2 and a half yrs. I'm in a situation that's almost unbearable it seems... And I've been telling him 4 some time now that I think his behavior is suspicious and I think anybody would agree... My post is under Breaks & breakups "strange behavior or cheating?" I vented everything there and hope that I can get closure soon.... It's 1 of those situations that somebody is causing doubt but makes u feel like ur going crazy & they're doing nothing wrong lol. If u have time check it out, give me much needed advice and ur response will be considered deeply by me and also read by him in time. I'm not looking 2 show him in a spiteful way, just in an open honest way. We've gone thru so much and I desperately want 2 know what others think. Thanx. (I don't believe in hiding anything.)
CaliGuy Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 I don't see the point. Besides, if your ex won't listen to you, showing them your LS post isn't going to make them change their minds. None of my exs know I post here and even if they did, I don't care if they knew what I was writing. I don't have to impress them (and that'd be cyber-stalkin' anyway! lol).
Island Girl Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 Nope and never will. Most of the time what I post here is just stuff he knows and knows how I feel but he can't do anything about it so it would make him feel terrible to keep talking to him about it - I usually try to appear strong just as he does for me. And if I was posting to vent about something or get other's perspectives either I already asked and got his or it has everything to do with him and I am just figuring out how to deal. It is my place. Anonymously I get to have honest feedback. And since I am a talker it squelches that. Better here than to family or friends. I have 3 friends I trust IRL. And my husband. Loveshack helps keep me from overburdening my emergency back ups! Besides you show them now and then you can't come here again. Loveshack is just too good a place to give up.
desertsun09 Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 I have thought about it....just for the reason to say "see, everyone else agrees with me"......but i never would. I don't regret anything i've posted on here, so if he ever found out, I think it would prob help him to understand things better.
anne1707 Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 I started posting on LS because of problems my H and I were having. He did then read my threads, which was incredibly painful for him but seemed to be part of our healing process. As it, he is now a regular LS poster so he can see what I post any time he wants. We generally try to avoid posting to the same thread unless it's an obvious funny thread or something we both feel particularly strongly about and can contribute to - that way, we both have a bit of space on here plus we want to avoid it being an "us" against other posters type of thing. One regular LSer once accused us of ganging up with each other on threads and bullying other posters which we found incredibly amusing and total nonsense because we know we have always made a point of avoiding threads the other has posted to subject to the exceptions I have referred to.
Citizen Erased Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 I have never chosen to show anyone anything I have posted on here. But a couple of people have read what I've posted without my consent and I was furious. Clearly if I wanted them to know what I was thinking or feeling I would have told them myself.
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