Author hibiscus21 Posted June 26, 2009 Author Posted June 26, 2009 To cause a big fight over something that wasn't meant to be offensive, will have an effect on your relationship, just as his words will. What kind of effect will it have? Is it something that will effect it forever?
Kamille Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 What kind of effect will it have? Is it something that will effect it forever? No, it will not last forever, as long as you are both committed to having the relationship that suits the both of you. Hibiscus, you don't want him to call you that. It's a fair request. To be honest, his spiel about "having to watch himself" around you sounds like wounded-ego talk. He'll get over it. You sound like you're second-guessing yourself. I get like that when I have to assert a boundary. I have a hard time with it, so when my partner does something I don't like, I do tend to over-react. I go in panic mode. The bottomline remains though: we are allowed to ask to be treated in ways we feel are respectful. If you feel you could have handled the situation differently, tell him so. It doesn't change the fact that you would much prefer not being called a whore or a slut. You're not asking for something impossible here. He can work on that while you work on how you'll go about establishing boundaries in a healthy manner - without over-reacting.
Author hibiscus21 Posted June 28, 2009 Author Posted June 28, 2009 I was with my boyfriend for the first time yesterday since our fight. Things feel really awkward and tense. I don't feel comfortable around him now. It really sucks.
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